Why do I keep having dreams that my boyfriend is cheating on me?

Well first off, being in a long term relationship is really hard. Secondly, I can certainly understand you being paranoid about your boyfriend and his ex living in the same town. You did the right thing by rationalizing the whole idea and not worrying about it, thats really mature thing to do, and that’s not easy to do. Maybe when your awake, you have so much going on that you don’t think about that stuff. But when youre asleep, your subconciously, in the back of your mind, not being able to let it go. When you sleep your body is relaxed so maybe thats why youre still having these dreams. One thing I have noticed about me is if i watch a scary movie or something on tv, i sometimes end up having weird dreams about that. Good luck to you.

I would imagine that subconsciously it’s really bothering you so it’s coming through in your dreams.

Your subconscious is SCREAMING at you, in your dreams…the only place it can make you listen up!

You may have talked yourself into believing he isn’t cheating, but in your heart you feel it may be true so it comes up in your dreams. People make excuses for why something can’t be true because it’s easier than dealing with the problem. I’m not saying he is cheating, I’m not saying he isn’t. I’m just saying you may be avoiding finding out.

I agree with Ozzman…you are probably preoccupied in every day life so you don’t have time to dwell on it or really think about it, even though you have said you’ve put it out of your mind. Your subconscious is still burdened by it though.

Sounds like you may need to discuss it with him again. Not necessarily to dredge up the whole issue but maybe just to have him reassure you that it isn’t true. Tell him you are feeling a little vulnerable and afraid, so it doesn’t sound like it’s his fault. Tell him you know it seems silly but you need help putting it to rest.

Good luck!

@elijahsuicide I’m not and we have discussed it.

I agree that it may be your subconscious trying to work this thing out. If you want to look deeper…

You might consider what’s underneath your fear of your boyfriend cheating on you. Do you have any feelings of possessiveness? Are you afraid of being abandoned? Perhaps your subconscious is showing you what you most fear, so that you can heal experience it and release it.

Cage cheating on timeand_distance? Pfft. Surely we’d know… and we haven’t heard a thing about it. : )

It’s just your subconscious working it out. It’ll be alright in the end.

youre probably trying to push it out of your head too much when youre awake.
thats why its coming through in your subconcious.
you need to confront the topic head on.
WHEN YOURE AWAKE.
it should help you to get over any anxiety that you feel about it and then you can get back to normal dreams.