What does this mean?- relationship question?

You should ask her. Are you afraid you will hear something you don’t want to hear? Yeah. But you should still talk to her about it.

We could only make an approximation as we don’t know her. I’m not trying to be snarky; it really is the best thing you could do.

When you asked her out the first time, did she just say “No” or did she give you a reason, as in “I’m not interested in dating you” or “I like someone else.”

Girls often do have a lot of reasons for saying no, besides “I’m not interested in you.” Depending on how old you all are, it could be parents, it could be other plans, it could be school, it could be another commitment, it could be… lots of stuff.

If you’re the date/escort to parties, ask her out for something to eat beforehand, or afterwards. Ask her to a school function.

Talk to her. Sometimes we women are a little weird.

She may be rethinking her decision and wants you to ask her out again.

It’s hard to tell since we don’t know either of you, but it sounds promising. Try asking her out again and see what happens!

@Twidleywink
Sounds like you are in the friends zone..Slowly back away from her and start to show yourself in a different context. Become a little less available and don’t be her emmotional support for everything.
“But she said no and we just went back to normal for a while.”

What’s normal? Her having fun and talking with you about her life and problems and you feeling lonely? She’s probably getting her needs met emotionally so really doesn’t see a need to change this.

If she’s interested in you romantically she’ll have to come to the plate…unless you just want to be friends forever, but the conversion rate for friends to lovers is low and it’s always weird unless it’s really serious.

Are you sure your friends aren’t mistaking friendly actions for flirting? Maybe that’s just her personality. Is her behavior the same or different since she said no?

If you didn’t notice a change in her behavior… chances are there wasn’t one.
There is of course the possibility that she really did want to go out with you and just wanted you to work for it… and since that apparently didn’t work maybe she’s trying to show you an open door.

@Dr C
The change in her behavior is not the issue. The behavior is still the same on her end, but the fact of the matter is she’s rejected him. Now should he remain and be the designated driver or reframe this in a context that’s more authentic for him.
@Twidleywink (?name)
Do you want to be friends or more? If the former, just do nothing. If you want more my advice is priceless.

Ok well I talked to her and here’s the deal… She likes me and wants to go. Which we now are. The thing was she was going though something big in her life for a few weeks and didn’t want to have a new boy friend…the reason she didn’t tell me earlier is that a) we didn’t know how long it would be going on so she didn’t want me or her to think that it might happen (us going out). Then once the problem was resolved and she had time to get things sorted out she was flirting with me so that I would Ask again. So thank you for the sage advice particually those who said to talk to her/ask her again :D

@Twidleywink
Why hold back information? Don’t waste my time.

She might have had a change of heart once the idea was given to her.
Sometimes, if the feeling is not mutual at first that one nudge can get people to think of you in a different light. Ask her again when you feel comfortable. Keep it light, being serious might go awry because you’ve asked once, if she isn’t into you it might make her uncomfortable when previously she wasn’t.

Ah, nevermind saw your new post, good for you! Congrats. :)

@SeventhSense: You know, he might have talked to her after he asked the question. Stick up the butt, much?

She is the only one that knows the answer to this question.

@Twidleywink – Aw…! Well, I’m glad it worked out. See? If you need to know something, just ask! :)

Ok well once Again thanks all

Congrats! all the best.