What happens if your friend makes out with you?

There isn’t much to go on here so I guess we’ll have to explore this from several angles. The question’s details are pretty much a contradiction also – “wow. and finally!” appears to cancel out “but it probably won’t happen”. A little confusing as to whether this event ever happened in the first place.

1. If the friend is the same sex as you, I guess it’s decision time. Are you going to stay hetero, do the bi thing, or make a major shift in your sexual orientation?

2. If the friend is currently in a relationship with someone else and makes out with you, or you’re already taken and they’re not and you’re receptive to their attentions, someone is cheating on someone else and that spells trouble right from the get go, in my honest opinion.

3. If the friend makes out with you and both of you are single and attracted to each other, it could be the start of something good. Take it slow and easy and see what develops.

4. If the friend makes out with you but it isn’t something you encouraged or wanted in the first place, that might be construed as unwanted sexual advances and you would have to tell that person that you are uncomfortable with their behavior and that it should stop right away.

5. It could just be for fun. Depending on the friend

When two friends become romantic, it often leads to weirdness and/or disaster. Not all the time, but often. In the rare occasion where things aren’t awkward afterwards, it’s sometimes hard to define what the relationship is, so the day after such a makeout session occurs I would personally bring it up in a joking way so that the person knew there wasn’t going to be a relationship, if that was what I wanted. If I did want a relationship, well this is a great opportunity to go into one, but do realize that it may be awkward if the relationship doesn’t work out and you’re left with this overlapping group of friends who will or won’t take sides. I have seen exactly this happen and trust me, it was messy and ugly.

On the other hand, I married someone who started out as a friend of several years. When we kissed, it was “Wow!” It can happen. Both peole have to be felling it though.

@MH; Felling in love again, vat am I to do? Kant help it, as MarLena sang. Are you packing with one hand and using iPhone with the other? If not, why aren’t you packing?You should be at the crystal goblets by now.

Enjoy it.

@gc Just typing badly, as always. Packing is going to speed up. Latest news is that the news will come in April, maybe as early as the first week. Right now, though, I am working on next weekend’s garage sale. (Our neighborhood traditionally holds one then, because it coincides with a weekend plant sale at one of the city’s major showplace gardens.)

Assuming it’s a girl I am sexually attracted to then sure, I’d go for it. Though it is not always a good idea and hardly ever leads to a successful relationship (for the simple reason that one of the people involved is typically further down the “love” road than the other one).

If it does work, it’s great! But don’t hold your breath yet.