Do you speak dating 101, cause I need HELP!

well it looks like he communicated with you the next day, good news on your part. If it was bad, i wouldnt contact her the next day.

Throw the hint out that you had fun too and would like to do it again if that is the case.

^Yup.

Yup ^^

I think you can stop looking for a subtext here. “Guy speak” is usually translatable with a standard dictionary (Noah Webster was a guy, remember?). We’re constantly baffled by the way you wimmins try to morph our words into something complicated and shudder nuanced.

i wouldn’t have a clue

but I’d be tempted to think it was a positive sign and throw caution to the wind…

email him something nice back…. if you want to of course…

Haha, we’re just getting things lost in our women translations. ;)

It probably meant that he had fun and he wanted to thank you for making it an exciting and rememberable night!

I’d read it as it is. He had a good time and wanted to let you know! Men and women aren’t that different, regardless of what society might lead you to believe.

Buckwheat says

@everyone..Thanks!! :)

Let’s do it again?

The email only contained that one sentence? No salutation or valediction?
I’m gonna play devil’s advocate here, because I’ve been dating again for a couple years and I’ve always gotten more than one-sentence communications the next day.

What did he say when he hugged you and you parted ways after the date?
What vibes did you get from him during the date? Does he seem shy?
What have his previous communications with you been like? Is this fairly consistent, or does it seem awkward or out of character?

And as others have suggested… what his intentions are only matters if you are interested in a second date. If you aren’t then let it roll off your back. My dating motto is: “High standards; low expectations.”

@hearkat
oohh I love that “high standards, low expectationss” good one, gonna adopt that. i got good vibes during the date, i dont think he is shy. i would like another date, i dont think i would care what he was thinking if i didnt want to see him again.
he didnt say much after we hugged as I got out of the car and closed the door. i guess i just have to send back a note and then wait and see what unfolds. Unlike you I dont have a lot of dating experience as of late, which is why I asked. Not enough practice or communications to base anything on. So thanks for sharing your dating tips and if you have any more…..:)

@bigbanana: Feel free to adopt my motto! That’s why I share it. :-D

I wouldn’t say that I have “a lot” of dating experience! In the past 3 years I’ve only gone on 4 first dates. One I told him I wasn’t interested afterward. One I dated for about a month before I was sure we weren’t really compatible. The other two I got into relationships with, but sadly, neither of them were really ready for a serious relationship.

If you haven’t had much prior communication, that makes it harder to tell what he might have meant. I try to communicate with them before hand via email, instant messenger, text and phone conversations so I can feel fairly confident in their character before going on a first date.

I guess a brief reply leaving the door open or perhaps even suggesting another date is the way to go, if you think their is potential. You never know until you try, and you have nothing to lose!

@hearkat thanks. that is all helpful. yes nothing to lose is another great thought.

A hug? In the car? Who started it? How did it feel to you, comfort-wise?

These things seem more important to me, than the words. How things feel. That’s what I’d pay attention to. And, as always, I would do what I want to do, not worry about timing or etiquette or what you think the other person is expecting. Be your god-damn self, and if he is also his god-damn self, you have half a chance of finding out enough about each other to see if there’s anything there.

@daloon
Good advice. I do need to ask myself how I feel and then act on that. It was that awkward moment when the night comes to an end on your first date and you dont want to say too much at that moment. So I thanked him for dinner and reached for the door handle and she said, “give a hug” or something like that. It was sweet, kinda awkward as we were in the car, you know the reach-over-side -hug. Anyway, I am going to take your advice consider my feelings tonight. Thanks for your thoughtful response.

I meant to write “HE said give a hug”....