Why does sex hurt when you first have it?

Most likely her hymen was still in tact and it broke during intercourse.

Welcome to the collective. If you are a virgin, there can be some momentary pain.

If there is a lot of pain (like crying three times) your friend probably had a selfish and clumsy partner. It does not have to be that way.

what they said.

And yes, welcome!

The question is answered pretty clearly above…but I just wanted to say welcome to the collective :).

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thank you : )

Your welcome:)

Welcome; and keep in mind that intercourse for the first time is not painful for everyone. I was a 20 yr. old virgin on my wedding night and the experience didn’t trigger the “rocket’s red glare,” but it was pleasant and did not hurt.

If a woman is planning for her first time and is with someone she loves and trusts (the only partner I would recommend), there are some easy stretching exercises if, indeed, her hymen is still intact.

In the 70’s, with the rise of the women’s lib movement and consciousness-raising groups, often women met and looked at themselves and each other’s vaginal areas with mirrors. It took all the shame away and brought about for many the freedom to have an orgasm, and not necessarily simultaneously with her partner and not necessarily vaginal and not necessarily partnered. The times, they were a’changing.

Welcome!
And yes, it hurts because of the hymen breaking. I know not everyone has pain though. Mine hurt a lot, but mine was not a nice experience overall to begin with.

if you are a guy, then it means you are doing it wrong.

or that her husband came home from work early!

Didn’t hurt me, until she told me she was pregnant.

I’ve heard it does from a few people. It seems like it would at first. I’ve also heard that there is blood involved but then again I am just a young pup who knows little of such things. 0 :)

It didn’t hurt me the first time. But I was wearing a condom. ;)

Yes, losing your virginity can be painful for women. Not all, but most. Especially if the guy’s not doing it right. Still, I think the most important thing to consider is not the physical pain, but the choice of partner. Is he a kind and loving guy who will try not to hurt you? Does her respect you? What happens next? What sort of relationship do you have and how will sex affect it?

I think the physical pain of the act pales in comparison to the heartache of a girl dumped after someone just stole her virginity. I don’t think you should necessarily wait until after marriage or anything, but you shouldn’t just throw something like that away to someone who neither deserves nor appreciates it.

And I’m not saying this is what happened to your friend, I’m just saying there are more important things to consider than the pain (which will not be that great if the guy cares enough).

It didn’t hurt me at all, most likely because there are other ways for a hymen to break that doesn’t involve sex (or any form of intentional vaginal stimulation) or tampons. I was pretty happy that it didn’t too, because I got to fully enjoy the experience.