Would you rather be liked by people you don't like, or disliked by people you do like?

Totally liked by the people I dislike.

If the people I like didn’t like me back, that would be sad for me. I don’t care a whole lot about what the people I don’t like think, but really, what’s wrong with being liked by anyone?

I don’t ever want to be disliked by ANYONE. But it’s inevitable. You can do everything right and be disliked. (look at Jesus) So you’re not always going to win. But do what you know is right and it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks.

I’m with Likeradar.

I’m with Asmonet and Likeradar—I am all about more people liking me. And if I don’t like them, it’s probably still easier in my life if they like me. I mean, maybe they want to hang all the time and I’m in weird social situations but it’s better than being disliked. By anyone.

Personally I don’t really care if anyone likes or doesn’t like me, so I would have to go with “neither”. I can’t control how someone else perceives me or my actions, nor can I control the conclusions they draw, so why bother wasting my time thinking about it?

If I had to pick between the two, I would obviously pick the first one, being liked by people I don’t like. That has much less of an impact on my life than the second one, being disliked by people I do like.

Ultimately though, I wouldn’t care either way. I’m too busy living my life to care about what other people think of me, my choices, and my actions.

I don’t care what people I don’t like think. If I like someone, I would like for them to like me back or at least respect me.

Like dynamicduo, I don’t care either way. I learned long ago that life isn’t a popularity contest. I am more interested in the person’s manners than whether or not they like me.

@atlJanie Welcome! and good point about Jesus!!! never thought about it like that before…

I would prefer to be liked by the people i dislike that… = power!
the latter would just = being a very bad friend!

ideally i would like to be liked by the people i love and not give a damn about the rest… working on it

Being disliked by people I do like would hurt more. It would be awful if my best friends hated me.
I’d much rather be liked by people I don’t like.
Any day.

Yes, Im with Allie

better to be liked then disliked…

I pick answer A.

I really don’t care; I am who I am, and I don’t need the approval of others (or the disapproval of others) to validate my actions or my self-esteem.

@cwilbur You might not need the approval of others to validate your actions or self esteem, but if someone really doesn’t like you they can go pretty far out of their way to do nasty things to you. At which point their dislike might impact you.

@EmpressPixie: That’s still not enough to make me really care. People willing to be that vindictive are their own reward.

@cwilbur So think about a person right now. Who is your best friend/parent/sibling/significant other/someone you like a lot? You wouldn’t care if they suddenly stopped liking you? At all?

@Allie: I would care, but people only act like that in hypothetical questions, so I’m not terribly concerned about it actually happening.

@cwilbur Ha, okay, fair enough.

Everyone here who answered that they like to be liked better than disliked, I like you and I like your way of thinking and I’d like to say that I would rather be liked than disliked also.

Holy crap that is a mouthful.

Seems to me if you are liked by people you dislike then you are doing something right and treating all people with respect and care. If you are disliked by people you like then I think it is time to take a long hard look at what you are doing wrong in your relationships.

well said sherlock!

Love me for who I am or don’t. It is more important to be true to myself than to pretend to be something so that the maximum number of people will like me. No one here has really said it, but being popular can be a curse.

Life is not a popularity contest. Life is about finding out who you are, accepting that person, and if other people like you, good. If not, well fuck em. I have far too much to do than to worry about people liking me. Tis better to be liked than disliked, but if you have to pretend to be something you’re not, what’s the point?

Totally liked by people I dislike. This is already true. When I was a senior in high school, I had a group of freshman girls who gaggled together and wanted me to be their bffl. Not so much. If you’re disliked by people you like, then it’s a whole lot more pain for you.

I don’t know, man. They both have their down sides. lol.

I totally read ^ in a stoner voice. “I don’t know, maaaan.” Sorry @ShauneP82, you probably didn’t mean it that way.

On the contrary @Allie. That is pretty much what I was thinking. Ride the waves dog!