What did you fight with your siblings about?

How awful. Rather than let that happen, I would opt out of the entire process. Nothing is worth that.

I once had a rift with my sister that lasted more than a year in which she did not speak to me. She took her at the time live-in boyfriend’s side in a dispute that I took her daughter’s side in. Finally, she called me and asked me to come to her wedding (same guy). I did and subject was never mentioned again.

sex….......im just kidding im an only child

My brother had us believing the reason he added his name on mom’s bank accounts was so that he could cash her checks for her more easily. We had no reason to distrust him. Little did we know that the bank accounts with his name were not inheritable but, instead, all his. Even mom didn’t know. She died. He got it all.

everything.
I have an older brother and sister and two little half sisters

Fought over everything when we were kids.
When our mom died, we each made a list of what we would like to have, in list of priority.
Some things had sentimental value, others had more monetary value.
Miraculously, the three of us had no conflicts over the items that topped our lists, the things we really wanted. It all worked out. I think making our lists really helped.

We only fought for bathroom time. (Eight girls & me)

Discussing inheritance before she is dead tells me a lot about what they truly care about.

She is alive, so her decide, in her will.

if she knows her kids are that petty, she might leave it all to charity

@DrBill They have to sell the house to pay for her care. They have to distribute the furniture because it’s in the house, which will not be hers soon. If it were up to them, she’d be healthy and living at home, not having to deal with these issues. As it is, they are doing the best they can to make sure her time left on earth is as comfortable as possible.

I think your assumptions ill become you.

My sister and I had quite a row last year about some of the life choices I was making. She did not approve in the least. She still doesn’t approve but we are working through our differences.

As a kid I fought with all my brothers and sisters about all kinds of things, like what to watch on tv, what to eat, borrowing clothes, my brothers putting dynamite in my Barbie heads and blowing them up…. You know run of the mill stuff siblings fight over.

Luckily, we haven’t fought about anything, since my father’s death. He was very clear about his wishes – even the things that my mother has said we need to decide on how to divide, it’s been pretty easy to deal with – amazing. We have been know to fight about a lot of things.

Growing up, we’d fight over the color of the sky. Who had lighter hair. Who should get the “good” raft to play with in the pool. You name it, we’d fight over it. Oil and water. Of course, on those rare occasions that we did get along, we were thick as thieves.

My sister recently explained her ill feelings to me and it was painful to hear. She broke down in tears telling me – I can’t imagine how much pain she was in carrying this around inside her. She is bipolar and has gone through hell. She dragged me through it, as well. I’ve always seemed like a trigger for her and not a good one. She said she’s been so jealous that I was able to overcome some pretty bad things in my life, but she was stuck being bipolar. She said in her twenties, she’d wish for something horrible to happen to me. Then, in my early to mid-thirties, I got sick. It’s been a long hard fight for me to start seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, but she felt responsible for me being sick. Logically, she gets it – she knows she was not the cause, but still, it hurts her.

We’ll fight about something else, eventually…it’s bound to happen. We’re both pigheaded.

1. who gets to go first
2. it’s mine
3. he used my stuff
4. no, this is mine
5. i want that piece.
6. she got more than me
7. she got four and i only got three
8. that’s my seat
9. move over
10. why does he always get stuff.

@daloon

They’re discussing inheritance before she has passed, that is not assumed.

If that is the case they should be talking about how to care for her, not who gets what when she goes.

If she is alive, and they are talking inheritance, I stand by my opinion.

My Father died last summer and no one spoke about taking his stuff until after the reading of the will.

The last fight I had with my “sibling” (really my cousin) about 8 years ago was when he insisted I quit my job, return to the city where I was raised, move in with and take care of his schizophrenic mother because he was “tired of trying to do this shit.” I refused. I never knew there were so many vulgar words in English before that conversation.

@DrBill: so, what? You’d leave the furniture for the next inhabitant of the house? Explain this to me. They should throw it out on the street, maybe? They know what the will says. She wants everything divided evenly. There is no mystery here. The only mystery is how they can have enough money to pay for nursing home care.

@daloon

So go ahead and move it out, sell it, store it, what ever. If there is a problem with the cost of her care, sell the stuff and pay the bills.

It is still my opinion that if Mom is alive, even on her death bed and all they are worried about is their inheritance, they’re priorities are in
the wrong place.

They will have a lot of time to fight over meager possessions after she is gone.

When my FIL died, his stuff was auctioned, his kids were there, and they bought what they wanted. After the bills were paid they split up the money. No fighting over who gets what.

On this matter I think we will have to respectfully agree to disagree.

My mother and her siblings talk about who gets what. My mother has even asked her mother for a certain painting. And I know I get most of the jewelry…unless the one aunt and her family comes up and steals it all. That happened to my grandfather’s belongings. While he was dying in the hospital, my uncles wife went and ransacked their house. No one knew what to say or do :(

Fights with my brother were very childish.
Who got the front seat, was one I remember being a big one.
We fought a lot in high school, he hated going to school with me..especially after some kid in his grade spread rumors about me. It mortified my brother, and he confronted me about it. I told him the truth, that the rumors were false but he didn’t believe me. That put a huge wedge between us.

Which Smothers Brother mom loved more.

@Blondesjon Mom always liked you best! :(

My sister and I don’t fight, because I just roll over and take it. But I’m getting really friggin’ sick of her and the way she treats her kids and our parents and me, and pretty soon – next time we talk, if she ever decides she has time for her family again – I’m going to call her on her bullshit, and then we’re going to fight. Because she doesn’t like it when someone implies that she isn’t the perfect bright and shining center of the known universe. [Bean is in a bad mood.]