How did your last relationship end?

It ended pretty badly. I wont go into the details, but I basically told him he needed to move back to California and get away from me. That was back in 2002, and Ive been happy ever since :)

We were dating long distance and just couldn’t take it anymore. He was the one who really said something finally. I was really upset and angry about some of the things he said in the conversation, so we didn’t speak for 5 months, until I finally called (drunkenly) and left a message. He called me back and we started speaking again, as friends. I don’t think I’m over him though.

I bit his scalp.

It hasn’t. Knock on wood.

Hahaha @girlofscience I’m glad someone else is a biter! Lurve for thatttt

Um, it just ended. Very bad. Let’s just say, I cant even remember most of it due to due many drugs and emotional scarring.
I do reacall a lot of walking around in the rain at night done by both parties.
Not mutual. I’m believe I’m still in love. (or.)

My heart still hurts. So, so, so much. It’s too complicated to go into, but it def. still makes my heart ache.

@Marina: Your current relationship hasn’t ended, but what about your last? (The one before this?)

Simple..we didn’t love each other enough. We didn’t respect the other. Neither of us were ever completely honest. It would have never worked.

It was pretty mutual. I mean, I was dumped but I wasn’t upset about it because I’d wanted to get out with our friendship in tact for months at that point. It was good she left. She left for a girl who broke her heart, though, and I hate that that happened. But I’m super happy now (super, super happy) and she’s starting to see someone who is good for her, which makes me happy. I still care very much about her, she’s one of my best friends, we just weren’t really meant to date

She went to France for a year. It wouldn’t have worked anyway, for several reasons, but that was what made us actually break up. It would have probably been even more miserable that it was if we’d gone on longer, as much as I hate that. I was in love and she wasn’t. I went to Europe and saw her for a few days just two weeks ago and I could tell then that it never would have worked, even if she hadn’t gone away. I still love her, but I’m getting over it. I’m hopeful that with another few months we’ll be able to be actual friends when she gets back. :)

She kicked me in the nuts.
I threw her LCD computer monitor out a window.

The LCD monitor landed on the landlords car.

She won that round.

WOW!

My last significant relationship, before my current marriage, was with my first wife and it ended badly. She exhibited serious anti-social tendencies in her behavior in the middle and latter half of our marriage and she treated me like garbage much of that time. The marriage started out well but then she became increasingly worse as the months went by and it completely deteriorated in the last 6 months or so before we seperated and then divorced.

It was already spiraling downward, but the last day ended with me throwing croissant dough, him biting my finger and pulling my daughter’s hair, and me throwing him out with a threat to call the cops if he didn’t leave. I used more colorful language. He left.

He said, “I was going to ask you to marry me.”

I said, “Oh God, no.”

After that, there wasn’t much left to say.

I kicked him out of my house because I was drunk… not much left after that…

My last relationship has ended several times. And never really ended. We’ve been saying goodbye since July, always thinking we’ll never meet again, but in the end we always do. It’s one of these doomed long-distance relationships when every time could be the last, but it somehow never is. It’s usually the other way around, you think it will last and it doesn’t. In any case, I try not to think about it that much. We are officially apart, but unless one of us finds someone new, I guess we’ll meet again next month.

Our last goodbye was Wednesday afternoon if that’s what you wanted to know.

Like all of the ones before it…badly.

i burn my bridges very thoroughly

biting isn’t funny. “mark” has a scar still!

He decided he was pretty much gay, rather than bi. (“Bye!”)

@laureth…you used to date larry craig?

Hee! Nope. The story’s more convoluted, but that was the reason for the breakup.

@casheroo: Oh my god! Does he really?!

@girlofscience Totally serious. It’s sort of raised, it’s a weird scar. He shows it off when he tells the story.

@Jack79 mine does the exact same thing. It’s been ending for 7 months. We’re getting there now, slowly and painfully. I can’t even understand how breakups end up taking nearly a year. It took as almost as long to actually break up as we were together!

@casheroo: Wow, that’s crazy. I had no idea I caused that much damage! So sorry!

@laureth I’m wondering if that’s why mine ended and he won’t admit it. I wasn’t into him when we first met because I thought he was gay. I think the first thing he did was tuck my tag in for me that was sticking out of my shirt…

Has he gone and dated men after you broke up?

@aviona You suspect the man you lived with and dated might be gay? Wouldn’t you just know? Your posts referring to your ex confuse me, sometimes it seems like you had a long, intense relationship, and other times it sounds like a fling that you were more invested in than him. If he’s gay then he’s a lost cause.

If anything he would be bi, not gay, for I know he likes women. Our group of friends is very hard to explain. We’ve all made out with each other and seen each other naked at some point in time (yeah it sounds kind of fucked up). So sexual orientation is very…fuzzy. It was a serious and intense relationship which is why I feel like my heart is in my stomach all the time.
I did truly think he was gay when I first met him. I guess I should have explained further. We met in a hotel room before a rave in celebration of my birthday last year. So, I pretty much met him on ecstasy, which, obviously changes people and makes them, well, flamboyant. I guess, you could also label him a metrosexual in general. He was raised in southern California and just has tendencies (hand motions, expressions, etc.) that could be viewed as homosexual. He also cares about how he looks, but I guess no more than a lot of guys.
Anyway, I guess I was a little quick to say that. Plus, the “gay” card just gets thrown around so much (at least in my group of friends), so it’s hard to say. And again, the lines of sexual orientation are not clearly defined. Plus, obviously, me telling myself he’s into guys is just an easy way out, mentally. We even talked about it very openly during our relationship. He would never deny it fully, but also said he could never imagine himself with another guy.
So, really, it’s just a cop-out for me and I was too quick to say it here on Fluther. And, I’m sorry @laureth if I in any way demeaned your real, actual situation in any way.

I don’t feel demeaned. :) My situation was also complex. That person went back to being a mostly straight woman.

@adreamofautumn (and @TitsMcGhee too I guess)

ours is not a painful breakup. We started off as friends, and we’ll still be friends no matter what. We’ve got far too many serious problems to worry about little things such as sex, long-distance love or huge phone bills. And neither of us is jealous, or at least I know I’m not. If she finds a nice guy to take care of her, I’ll actually be happy. My only worry is that it will be some jerk that will just use her. Until then, we’re there for each other, and I try to fly over whenever I can.

@Jack79 I understand that. All of it. I’m in the same position and even though it hurt me to end it, the distance was hard and everything surrounding it was hard. Good luck to you, no matter how it turns out. :).

I was talking to my ex on aim. At that time he was my bf. I was tired of him and thinking of a way to break up with him.So i was listening to my ipod and i found the perfect break up song. I told him to listen to it and he got the point. The song was Say Goodbye by Chris Brown

@Jack79 sometimes we keep each other company until we find someone else.

As for me, my last real break up was awful. I followed him around on Halloween night even though he didn’t want me around, and he treated me like crap. His friend put on a cd, and not knowing it was his band, I accidentally said that it sucked (great learning experience, never say that!) Than the same friend went on to put the moves on me and my boyfriend didn’t do a thing. Than a few days later he called me up and told me that he was breaking up with me because his friends didn’t like me and that he enjoyed hearing me cry. WHAT A WIMP ASS biatch &*%^$!

Luckily I’ve met someone normal.
PS: he still calls me. haha. what a p.o.s.