Insecure about breast size?

I’m curious, her child with him is young enough to be breastfed? And you have a child with him also? Are these two children close in age?
Maybe she is doing it on purpose, because (and without more info from you) she has a very young child with him, and he left her for someone else. He abandoned her and his child. I’m pretty sure she has more reason to dislike you than you do her.

Also, you even said it yourself..your fiance is with you and not her. If he wanted to be with someone, it sounds like it’s not just because of the boobs, it’s because he actually loves you. After having a child, my boobs changed.. my husband may miss my old boobs, but he still loves the ones I have.

This sounds like a challenge and men are always attracted to the novel so believe me, tit’s this week, butts the next. And guys love a pretty, sweet, cute fun girl more than anything. Just a guess but she’s probably got more fat than you? Maybe a little key comment about cellulitis and how “this one girl you know, kind of gross..” maybe flaunt your assets She’ll get the picture. But seriously, you should just avoid being with her and your boyfriend at the same time and if he loves you, you have to trust and if you don’t. Move on.

Coming from a big-tittied girl, I can attest to the fact that we, as a group, use them to our advantage when we came. Shameless? Yes. Effective? Yes as well.

The best thing that you can do is show her that you’re confident in your looks. This doesn’t have to revolve around breast size, either; choose a part of yourself that you are particularly confident in and flaunt it. Do you like your legs? Wear shorts or skirts that show them off or wear heels that make them look ten miles long. Do you like your eyes? Focus your makeup on them and use colors that make them pop, fluttering your lashes when you can. Confidence is the key. If you are confident in yourself, her exhibitionist behavior won’t phase you.

If she is throwing her boobs around at family functions, I’d ask a matriarch to discreetly tell her to put them away. Even if you’re not blood related, no family member wants to see that shit.

yeah, you’re exactly right seventh sense…situation down to a T…i have the butt, shes got the boobs LOL. he didnt leave her for me, we met a long time after they broke up.

Oh I would flaunt that big time. Guys eventually find that side much more useful. :)

lol tits…i actually had to crop her out of some photos (not spiteful) but b/c there was a little too much going on for christmas photos!! i felt bad…:/

Why do you let a girl that’s desperate for attention bother you? If her biggest asset is her tits, then it’s a sad situation.
More importantly, why is it necessary for her to be at family functions? She should drop the kid off when it’s his time to be with it. He is being disrespectful to you by allowing her to be at family functions.

She thinks she’s doing this to goad you/get her guy back. But, in a way, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with how insecure she feels. I mean, really. Boobs? That’s all she believes she has to hold a man’s interest? That’s sad. At some point, she’s going to have to move on with her life and that’s not your problem. Don’t make it your problem.

As for you, there’s no need to get yourself in a tizzy over her antics. Let me reiterate, they ultimately have nothing to do with you. Your body is fine as it is. Your man is with you (and even if he left you to go back to her, all that would mean would be that he wasn’t the man for you, not that you’re a unlovable person).

Accept your body. Treat it with care. I guarantee 10 years from now, you’ll look at pictures of your current self and wonder why you hated your body. It’s like I always say to people who ask these kinds of questions, what would you say to your best friend in the same situation? Hint: YOU are your best friend!

There is nothing wrong with being a proud member of the itty bitty titty committee. I am too and though I get teased about it but don’t mind. She sounds like a jerk, but don’t feel bad about yourself. There is no shame in girls with average/smallish breasts!

hmmm elijah…this we know. complicated situation involving not being able to afford a lawyer…LONG story. Suffice to say until we take her to court, (which we plan on doing) we will not see their daughter w/o her being there as well. Apparently they are a “package deal” ...i know, right? like i said, she’s pretty ghastly.

Most states have court appointed lawyers available, and unless your boyfriend is an unfit father he won’t need supervised visitation.
My ex husband had a court appointed lawyer. Didn’t cost him a dime.

I’ve never heard of having the other parent alway present, sounds like bullshit to me. If they did need a supervisor of the visitation, it wouldn’t be the mother..it’d be a social worker or something.
Is she welcome to his family functions? How long did they date for? Also, you never answered my original question..is the child they have together a young child? This is very relevent in answering, for me.

she is a toddler (3 yr). We were together when the child was a baby though. It’s not bullshit, we havent been to court yet…i realize legally she can’t do that, but try telling her that. It’s up to him whether she is welcome or not, and more often than not he says yes so that he can be with his daughter. Not only family functions though, EVERY visit they have ever had. He is not an unfit father…i dont know her motivations but i assume it is b/c she knows she wont really be welcome if she doesnt “enforce” this…however recently she has not been invited b/c the family is very fed up. How do you get a court-appointed lawyer? we have been trying to do alot of research on it…short of kidnapping her, or taking her to court there hasnt been much we can do. Until we get court appointed visits we are at her whim…we probably would have done it before now, but she kept assuring him that it was only temporary, and would change when she became more comfortable…well, we are not waiting anymore.

he said no to her one time (thanksgiving of last year) and she still holds it over his head and says how it was not “more important for him to see his daughter” and acts like it means he doesnt care about her…

The bigger they are when you are young, the more they flop when you get old!

Alright, so there are two main issues here:
1. This babymama has big breasts that she uses to flaunt and draw attention to her. Actually, the babymama is a dramallama ooh rhyme bonus! and is enforcing her presence on you.
2. This babymama is around often because there is no court order to limit her presence.

Dealing with #2 would cause #1 to reduce in frequency dramatically. I know you’ve said you have no money for a lawyer, but there are places that provide free representation, you just gotta look around where you live. Telling us your state would help, someone from there may pipe in with more info. I strongly suggest pursuing this way, because this is the kind of person who needs a court order to be told what’s appropriate or not, otherwise she’ll keep this up cause no one calls her on it. If she does not respect other people’s wishes, then it’s time to cut the crap and start playing hardball.

What are the father’s rights? Does he pay child support? Why does the mother have sole custody?

If you really want to sort this out, you guys need to start pooling up some funds for a lawyer and get this solved with the law. Reasoning with the person isn’t going to work. I’m sure you can call up some lawyers in your area, be frank and tell them you don’t have a lot of money, maybe they know a friend who helps people like you.

If I were in your exact situation, I would simply walk down to the police station and flat out have the dad tell them “The mother of my child is keeping my child from me, and will not leave the child in my presence without being there. What can I do?” While they may not even be able to deal with it at all, these people will know the right people to call, so you go talk to those people, and continue until you have a court appointed lawyer.

There is nothing you can say or do, nor the dad, that will stop this woman from having her way. In fact, even when you sort this out through the courts, I bet she’s the type who would keep the daughter for longer, hang around until told to eff off, etc. To deal with that, you’ll just have to be assertive yet legally respective. But the first step is getting this sorted through the courts. Do whatever you can to get that money (pawning, second job), but go talk to lawyers now anyway!

The situation has surely passed but my 2 cents would have been to trump size with perky firmness. If you could pass the pencil test when you felt you would encounter her, ditch the bra. A firm perky natural pair almost always trump a set of big floppy, or man created, boobs from the guys I know.