such an awesome question i can’t resist it. Long answer! Simple process!
Well, this is just a theory i’m working on.
Understanding the Nature of Belief
i think if you pay close enough attention to what’s going on in your head you’ll realize that you cannot choose your beliefs at all. whatever you happen to believe is what you happen to believe and you’re stuck beyond stuck that way. for example, what is your username? can you “choose” to believe that your username is “FRANK” instead of “lynneblundell” ?? It’s not possible because the evidence dictates what you believe.
So, whenever you want to change a belief.. you’ve only got one option. You need new evidence!
So for example with the usernames.. if you delete your account and create a new account called “FRANK”.. THEN the evidence will dictate to you that your username is no longer “lynneblundell” and it is in fact (as far as you can tell) “FRANK” !!
So, changing the evidence = changing your beliefs.
Understanding that we are Creatures of Habit
As human creatures, we can get used to anything. We can go from luxury to slavery. We can go from rags to riches. We can go from heavy eating to healthy eating. We can go from habitual smokers to non-smokers.. We can do anything we want as long as we practice something long enough for it to become second nature to us. That is, as long as we form the right habit for it.
So.. here are the steps that I believe are minimally necessary for beliefs to change:
Step 1: Isolate the Belief you wish to Change
Firstly, you want to isolate properly the belief you really want to change. eg. “I believe I am in the habit of working slowly and irregularly when I’m on task.” and then the exact opposite belief you wish to have eg. “I believe I am in the habit of working studiously when I’m on task.”
Step 2: Identify the evidence you need to observe in yourself in order for the belief to have changed
Now, consider this: If you worked hard all week, at the end of the week you would HAVE to conclude that “Yes, I worked studiously all week long”.. and if you accomplished that for 30 days you would be able to exclaim also: “Yes, I worked studiously all month long!” And if you did this all year, well then you may as well exclaim: “Yes, I work studiously, not lazily!”
So, now we know what evidence we need to observe!
Step 3: Create a New, Small Habit of successfully observing that Evidence
Now that you know what you want to change.. to actually change it from one belief to the next only comes through evidence. Meaning, you have to successfully create the habit of studious work. I believe the easiest way to do this is as bluefreedom suggests, Starting small.
Choose a time period of the day that you will dedicate towards this studious work. It should be relatively short in duration, maybe even impractically short in duration.. whatever it takes in order for it to be a success! Set an alarm or whatever you need to mark this time of day. Then DO IT. Spend that short period of time once every day (or however often it is needed) successfully completing that small task.
According to google, habits take about 21 – 31 days to form, on average. So, that’s how long you have to stick to your regimen for. Create that habit of sucesfully accomplishing that *small goal of studious work every work day.*
Be sure to reward yourself for accomplishing it every time. (or almost every time)
Step 4: Increase the duration of your habit
So, you’re almost done now. At the end of the month, your belief has already changed from: “I believe I am in the habit of relaxing every day” to: “I believe I am in the habit of working studiously every day for a small period of time.”
Once that habit exists. You should find it hard to break from it. Once that alarm goes off, your own human nature should work against you to motivate you to engage in what has become your small little habit. And now that it exists.. all you have to do is
increase the duration of your studious behavior.
You already have the habit, it’s just a matter of enduring longer and longer. And growing accustomed to the length of Studious work that you want over time.
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sorry this is so long. but i think it makes sense.