Do you have a specific place where you'd like to be buried and why?

My ashes will be tossed into Lake Superior. I’m 38 and I have already discussed this with my husband. He knows exactly where I want them to be scattered. Lake Superior is heaven to me and it holds a special place in my heart. My fondest memories with my husband and children have been on the south shore.

Nah, you don’t have to be of a certain age. I’ve been closer to death a lot more often than my dad who’s twice my age.

I thought of all sorts of weird places and wishes, but since my daughter was born:

1) I’ve been concentrating hard on staying alive just for her
2) Assuming I die later in life (ie after my parents), I wouldn’t want my funeral to be too much hassle for her (you know, like she’s got to find a coffin made of Icelandic bamboos and bury me on the top of Everest, at a spot where it never snows, with soil shipped over from Mars).
3) I figure that, once you’re dead, what happens to your material body doesn’t matter much (regardless of whether there is afterlife or not, I’ll certainly not be using it anymore). So I guess I’d want other people to take whatever is useful (I’ve got good lungs and kidneys, and I guess some other parts could be useful, perhaps even my heart). And just dump the rest somewhere it won’t smell too much. Like a cemetery or something.

@Jack79 Liked your answer very much.

Wrap me in a linen shroud (don’t bother wasting wood with a casket), plop! Then plant a tree over me. It dosn’t matter where on earth that would be for me. Sorted.

I would suggest them throwing me to the wolves.

My father-in-law has always said he wanted to be cremated and have his ashes put in a douche so he can be run through my mother-in-law one more time.

As far as me… I’ve told my wife, “once I’m dead I don’t give a shit what you do with my body. Bury it, burn it, donate it, fuck it, paint it up and throw darts at it. I don’t care.”

I want to be cremated and scattered on the Outer Banks of NC. I feel like I have left a large enough carbon footprint on the planet and anything I can do for the remaining years to cut down on that, well, I’m doing it. I also can’t wrap my mind around being put into a crypt in the ground for people to put flowers on after I’m dead. Seems like such a silly custom to me. Just my take on that.

I will be cremated, not buried, and my ashes will be scattered in a location that I am yet to decide.

I haven’t thought about it :( I do want to be buried though. I know my mother wants to be cremated, and so does my husband. So I have no clue where I want to be buried.

I want to be buried in my church cemetery but I don`t think I should share the name!!!

I haven’t really thought about it, but my Grandpa told us that he’d like to be cremated and then buried over my grandmother’s grave so that they could share the space.

I want to cremated, and i have no particular request as to what should be done with my ashes. I don’t think i really care. :)

@Sakata darts? Wouldn’t they just fall off a stiff?

@Jack79 Not if they’re sharp enough :)

I’m to be cremated and particular people want bits of my ashes. If they’re still alive when that happens, great. If I die alone in the world then I really don’t care where the ashes go. In fact, my wish to be cremated is only because I don’t want to take up space by being buried in the ground. If my wishes aren’t observed… meh.

I also want to be cremated, I too have already discused this with my family. I don’t really care what happens from there, I won’t know anyway.

I don’t want a big fuss, funerals are extremely expensive. I want to be cremated and have my ashes spread in a little lake in Virginia. It’s on private land (relatives). My husband and I have had many wonderful experiences there- it’s just a little piece of heaven, for us. We both want that to be our final place.

When my dad died in January, we had him cremated (his choice). We had a small ceremony and kept things really simple. He didn’t want a huge fuss. We still had to pay close to $3, 000 for everything. Cremation, urn, death certificates (you need a lot of originals!), obituary, Priest and all the other little things that pop up. To have a burial – was close to $9,000. It’s ridiculous. We still spent more than my dad wanted us to spend. He had joked, for a long time, that he should just be dumped in the ocean…become fish food.

@cak My sincerest condolences on the passing of your beloved father. May you know no further sorrow.

@Zen – thank you very much.

@cak OMG this is so familiar to me, my Dad past in Nov 97 but it was the same the cost, him joking he wanted to be fish food. I honored his wishes by having him cremated and then tossed him in the ocean where he wanted to be.

@mpjt2005 – I’m glad your dad is where he wanted to be. :) Right now, dad is home. My mom said that they had also talked about being together in one of their favorite places, so we are just letting her make the decision.

Cremated, not buried—ugh.
Final disposition to be determined by those who are alive. I have thought about it, though.
After losing my dad and my brother, so much of the disposition of the deceased has to do with those of us who are still around. Making us feel better, consoling us, helping us to greive and make peace with the loss. The rituals of death support the living.

i am 16 and i would like to be next to that one person i love more than any thing in the whole world

@watrulookinat You might want to focus on your homework and ipod, less on death, dear. Enjoy being 16 – it goes by quickly.