Go to the show or sell the tickets?

I say it’s your birthday- go and have fun.

You gotta do whatever feels right to you though. I don’t think anyone else can give you a “right” answer.

Sell the extra and go alone!

Take a friend and have fun. Make it a girls’ night!

There’s no right answer here. It depends on what feels right to you.

But some questions that might help you decide:

Do you want to see them, or not? Nothing says you have to invite someone; you could go alone. If you do want to see them, then you should go.

Are there any non emotionally-charged people you could go with?

I would go still. I think going to concerts alone is kind of not fun, but I’m sure there’s someone you could take who you could take (a sibling, a non-catty friend?)

Maybe take someone with whom you could build new memories? How much time do you have between now and the date of the concert?

didn’t we just answer this this other day?

too soon to hook up with ex

Has something changed since this question? I know it’s a difficult situation for you.

I know I know sorry @cak. Not really, just my own thoughts. Weighing everything.

The concert is a week from today @Jeruba

@aviona – no – I just was hoping that nothing big was adding to the situation – that nothing else happened. You are in a difficult situation, I don’t envy you. I’m almost at the point where I would say to sell the ticket and plan something totally different. Get the girlfriends together and go out! It’s your birthday, don’t surround it with something that can make it difficult.

Thanks for the input. Unfortunately I’m turning 20, not 21 and hardly any of my friends are 21, so going out isn’t thattt much fun. I mean going to this show would be the best thing going on for minors that night.

You’ve said in other posts that you are kind of depressed right now, so I think going to the show is a good thing to do, rather than staying home. Go with you prior ex- if he is truly just a friend or take a girlfriend but the important thing is to go out and do things.

@aviona – Unfortunately, right now – this is overshadowing everything. It’s easy for us to suggest things, the hard part will be for you to make the decision and be able to be okay with it. I had fun before I turned 21 – there was life before drinking (legally) I promise! I really wish I had a perfect answer, but I don’t. married woman that just enjoy a serious hot wheels race with my son.

Do you live on your own, can you have some friends over just for the night – rent cheesy movies, get some food – play games and gossip. Or, if there is a Dave & Busters or someplace that has a lot to offer, activity wise, just go have some fun.

Maybe this isn’t the year for a big party – what about dinner out with your girlfriends, keep it low key. You just aren’t in a (mental/emotional) place for a big celebration.

I’m sure my suggestions stink…I’m trying! I’ve never been a big bar hopper – so my ideas of fun may not be real fun!

@cak I totally know what you mean. And birthdays aren’t a big deal to me at all, so I haven’t done it up the past few years. But then as @janbb puts it, getting out, making myself go out, even if I don’t want to can be a good distraction.
Ugh, he dilemma.

Thanks for all the input!

Ratatat are awesome, but I wouldn’t want to go to the gig alone. If you’re not comfortable going with a friend, then I would sell the tickets. Have fun on your birthday though!

@richardhenry have you seen them live?

I was in the same situation with My ExGirlfriend last summer. We Live in Kansas, and we wanted to go to see the Projeckt Revolution Tour with Linkin Park. In Dallas, Texas. Long story short, she cheated on me, we broke up. So there i was. Two Tickets, I took my best friend. I was going to be dammed if i spent the money to fix up my car, the hotel room and the tickets and i didn’t get to go.

Take your best girlfriend and have a great time! Once you get there you will forget all about the what ifs, and have fun. don’t pass up something you’ve wanted to do over old memories. Go, have fun, and make some new ones!

Scamp is right. No sense in letting the past steal your future.

Okay but now I gotta let the previous exboyfriend who I told I was going to take that he’s un invited!

I was in the exact same situation as you. My boyfriend had bought Tool tickets for me, stuff happened, I broke up with him and said I never wanted to talk to him again. Yeah, well… I ended up going with him anyway because I had no one else to go with. We had a good time and we still talk now.

You have to do what you think is right for you.

Go because it’s Ratatat. I’m sure you could find a friend to go with you.