For the girls around the age of 23-25?

State your age as well. Thanks

I’m going on 28, but I can relate. When I was 23 I tried to date a guy who was 20, almost 21. It was just weird to not be able to go out for drinks with my boyfriend because he was too young. In the past year, I met a couple of guys who were 25, and even with me just being 27, it was weird. Maybe they weren’t mature enough yet. Anyway, that’s my input, sorry it’s sort of long!

Thanks essie! The thing is he lied at first about his age. Not by much though. He can get into bars though he has a fake id. It’s a turn off for me. I just met him last week.

I am 26. Of course I’ve been with my partner for 8 years now. When we met I was 18 he was 17. I was in college, he was in high school. And it worked out, like I said we’ve been together for 8 years. So I say go for it. Just keep in mind that men mature slower than women (sorry guys it’s just a fact of life) so you may have additional relationship complications. Also he may be threatened by commitment at such a young age so if that is in your plans I’d wait awhile to spring it on him. I don’t think that dating a younger man is a problem so long as you are ready for it.

I’m 22, I have a guy I sorta like that’s 18. And it freaks me the fuck out sometimes.
It’s only an issue sometimes when he doesn’t catch a reference, or I imagine if we went out and he couldn’t drink or get into certain places like essieness said.

I don’t know, it makes me more cautious I would say.

@red that’s only a year difference between you and your bf. I’m going to be 24 before he turns 21! And he was so cute! Damn

@asmonet so your going through the same thing? See I always said to myself I’ll never date younger then 1 year. It’s a turn off. Idk what to do. He also was like “what now your not going to talk to me”?

I don’t have any such restrictions, I think love is love, like is like, there are different challenges for every pairing. I can empathize, but I never had a rule about it beforehand or anything. My situation just kinda happened…randomly.

Oh, shit, sorry he just turned 19. If that even makes a difference cause I’m about to be 23. It’s just… very confusing. You have to look at the person, not the number, and not freak out because of that number or use their age against them. It’s a tough topic, it’s always there, waiting to ruin something. But usually it isn’t an issue, until some external force points it out.

What about maturity?

Again, depends on the boy.
You’ll probably notice some differences, I have. But you also have to make a decision about whether those small gaps outweigh potential good. And you’ll have some annoyances… I call people kiddo all the time, it’s just a habit. But when I call him kiddo he bristles and assumes I’m thinking of him as if he’s a child or immature. I think that’s ridiculous but again, you have to feel it out.

I don’t think it’s any different from other relationships that have clear differences culturally or religiously.

You really just have to take it slow, and use your brain a bit more than your heart. I you don’t you might end up on a path to hurt that could be avoided.
That’s what I think anyway.

I think women have a tendancy for older men just for maturity reasons. I know everyone matures at different ages, but from personal experience I’m always a little wary of guys my age (I’m 20, going on 21) or younger. I just think if he lied to you from the getgo about his age…it isn’t a good sign.

At our age (i’m 22) it seems weird to date younger guys, but once you get older…people don’t even give it a second thought.
If you like the guy, then pursue it. You might fall in love.

As long as he’s legal, don’t worry about the actual numbers. Concern yourself with how his maturity level matches yours.

It’d completely depend on the person. However, I won’t lie when I say I generally stay away from guys who even match me in age (24) because it’s extremely rare to find any who are mature enough for me to bother with. It’s not impossible though, so if anyone finds someone out of their “norm”, I say give it a shot because you never know where you’ll find true love.

Oh shit, my last quip got screwed in the edit. Oh well.

That’s a fine age difference. If the man was mature enough and didn’t act like a drunken highschool frat boy, then I really wouldn’t consider the small age difference to be a deal breaker. As you get older, the few years difference really becomes insignificant.

I won’t be stating my age, but it’s in your range.

Age doesn’t matter as much as maturity. I’m 34, and as a general rule I won’t seriously consider anyone under 30. There are exceptions, but they are few enough to be noticeable as exceptions.

I’m 29 and my boyfriend is 20 (he turns 21 in November) and this is the youngest I have gone. I usually date older and about 3 years ago dated a man who was 54 at the time.

With this fairly new relationship, I was very cautious because he is so young. I knew my family and friends would have an issue with it, and I just didn’t know if we would get along so well. We’re sort of at the same place in life, in a way, and it’s worked out quite well. And while my family and friends still tease me about his age, they like him and accept it. I’m happy with it and can see a long future together,

I’m 24. Given that boys invariably seem more immature than girls for some time (even at the same age), I would be unlikely to go for someone that much younger at the age of 20.

As long as he’s an adult…i’d say leave it up to your feelings. If you really like someone the age shouldn’t be too bad. However, one of my best friends is 22 and her girlfriend just turned 19 a few weeks ago, the hardest part is when she can’t go out with us. It traps my friend between hanging out with her GF or going out to party with her friends. That’s not a position I would like to find myself in.

ermm…

i think it would turn me off more that he was using a fake to get into bars and lying about being 21. if he’s going to lie about something stupid like that, what else is he going to lie about?

with that said, the only boys i’ve dated that were younger than me were 6 months and 1 year. beyond that, i just am not attracted to them… they’re like little brothers or something. but, that’s just me. oh, and i’m 24.

I am 21 years maybe a little younger then you wanted but I felt like I could help! Being mature is the most important thing, but other then that age is just a number! I am dating someone a little bit younger then me and I find that in many things he is more mature then I am. I am not saying that I am immature but I feel we are on the same level. We both want the same things in life and we have the same beliefs. There is so much more in a relationship then to worry about the age of someone! If you genuinely care about the person then the age shouldn’t even be an issue.