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If you could give your younger self one piece of advice, what would it be?

Asked by Jude (32204points) March 29th, 2009
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Judi's avatar

You are way more valuable than you think you are.

janbb's avatar

Don’t open that door!

(Sorry, I’m in a “whitty” mood right now.)

Jude's avatar

Breathe – it is okay to be different.

EmpressPixie's avatar

It’s all going to work out in the end, worrying now isn’t worth it.

SuperMouse's avatar

Leave in July 2002, don’t wait.

elijah's avatar

School is important. Start thinking about a career now, before it’s too late. You dont have as much time as you think you do.

Facade's avatar

Be a kid.

jlm11f's avatar

Don’t take that job in Fall of 2007. It will ruin dramatically change your life.

J0E's avatar

Try harder…dumbass.

Dog's avatar

Do not wait for someone else- it is YOUR life

TaoSan's avatar

I’d give you some advice, but I know you won’t listen anyways…..

MacBean's avatar

You can’t fix yourself; don’t be too proud to ask for help.

Bluefreedom's avatar

Never stop believing in yourself and always take life one day at a time.

hiphiphopflipflapflop's avatar

“It’s a trap!”

laureth's avatar

Finish college, even though it seems like forever. It sure beats working in a grocery store for 13 years because you have no degree.

Failing that (so to speak), don’t wait fifteen years to go back. It really is easier when you grow up.

seVen's avatar

So…,you been studying a lot!-
Do you really believe in all that?

jonsblond's avatar

Appreciate your parents.

hug_of_war's avatar

Stop trying to please the world

jbfletcherfan's avatar

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Let go of the guilt.

Horus515's avatar

I would’ve told myself to wait and watch with regards to women and love. Maybe, if my younger self listened, it could have saved me some time, and some pain.

seekingwolf's avatar

nothing

I like where I am now and wouldn’t be here today if it weren’t for the really stupid things I did and the lessons I learned. It would be wrong of me to deny my younger self all that experience.

So nope, I’m not going to tell my younger self about my future struggle with weight, the older men, the people who took advantage of me, and how she’ll have to start taking pills for depression when she’s 12.

Let her be young. I believe she can do anything she wants to without my advice. :)

TitsMcGhee's avatar

Fuck a lot of women, kid. Not just one woman – a lot of women.

This is always my first answer when advice questions come up.

But really, I’d tell myself to fight harder and avoid liquor on one specific night.

chucklmiller's avatar

Don’t you DARE eat the boiled shrimp at the 1989 Superbowl party.

susanc's avatar

Joy is as profound as responsibility. Have both.

eponymoushipster's avatar

Wear sunscreen.

Drawkward's avatar

Read more, and make some friends.

TitsMcGhee's avatar

@eponymoushipster: If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience.

DrBill's avatar

Last weeks lotto numbers

eponymoushipster's avatar

@TitsMcGhee i’m very happy that someone knew what i was getting at.

TitsMcGhee's avatar

I actually just mentioned it in another thread! Suuuuch a great piece :)

DrBill's avatar

@TitsMcGhee

I’ve heard that about you also…

avalmez's avatar

“The problem with youth is that it is wasted on the young” – Some Wise Old Guy

essieness's avatar

Stop bitching. It’s not that big of a deal. Oh, and don’t marry that guy you’re going to meet in April of 2005.

TitsMcGhee's avatar

@DrBill: Oh myyyyyyYou’ve heard correctly! :P

artificialard's avatar

You’ll never be as free to do what you want in your life. Do purely what truly makes you happy and ignore the naysayers. Don’t be afraid to try new things ‘cause the bad times melt away with time, while the good times will be harder and harder to come by.

There’ll be plenty of time to do what you’re supposed to do when you grow up. Be yourself while you can.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Find your other family and go live with them.

aprilsimnel's avatar

That woman is lying; you are a good person. Don’t allow her to guilt you into hating yourself.

Don’t be afraid of people, everyone on Earth is not that woman. DON’T LISTEN to a word she says about you. Treat yourself as though you are worthwhile and that you’re as good as other people – because you are.

Do what is in your heart to do. You are not selfish for wanting what you want, you want it for a reason.

janbb's avatar

Don’t be ashamed; it wasn’t your fault. Learn to like yourself now rather than 25 years from now.

nebule's avatar

no advice…just it’s gonna be ok one day

JamesL's avatar

@jbfletcherfan
Same here.

Let go of your personal biases and prejudices, that you have against others and yourself.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@JamesL Why is it so easy for other people to tell you it’s okay, but you can’t convince yourself?

DrasticDreamer's avatar

“You have no idea how awesome you are! Just breathe… You’ll see.”

JamesL's avatar

@jbfletcherfan
I think primarily that we are constantly striving for perfection, and have a hard time accepting that we are not perfect. It’s the inner cynic in all of us. We have to look forward and not back, accept our faults and learn from them. I just convinced myself recently. So life has gotten a whole lot better.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@JamesL Yes, I understand that. My guilt will go back 10 years come October. It’s taken me this long to try to sort things out in my head. Think I’ll ever get there?

JamesL's avatar

@jbfletcherfan
I really do. If I can be of any help, let me know…

Poser's avatar

Don’t marry her. Trust me, dude.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@JamesL Thanks. I appreciate that. :-)

JamesL's avatar

@jbfletcherfan
You are sincerely welcome.

CMaz's avatar

Keep your dick in your pants, stay away from drugs and study your ass off.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@ChazMaz WOW. You said a mouthful there. Very good thoughts to live by.

CMaz's avatar

Yes, what I have found is that there is plenty of time for all the above.
Youth is fleeting. Take that precious time and use it selfishly to better yourself. So, if and when you do decide to “live it up,”
you have the resources to afford it. You will also be wiser to make better choices.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

@ChazMaz I have a family member who I’d sure liike you to drill that home to!

CMaz's avatar

Well, as the saying goes. “Youth waisted on the young.”

jbfletcherfan's avatar

For sure. Adults know nothing, you know. Like they say, let the youth run the world now while they know everything.

SamiRae527's avatar

Don’t Date Kris Holmquist, Jk probably just to have fun enjoy life, i don’t have any regrets.

dindinbaby's avatar

Don’t try smoking, ever.

CMaz's avatar

“Don’t try smoking, ever.”

Not even a little weed?

Ok… Ok… Yes, don’t try smoking, ever.

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