Is it (or should it be) customary to bring a present for the mother when attending a child's birthday party?
I usually bring something for the mother when she gives birth, like a basket of lotions and such. But I don’t know about Bdays. It kinda makes sense to bring something for her. But what kind of gift? The same thing you would bring to a dinner party?
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Wow, no. That’s taking gift giving too far. (More power to you for being so generous, though.)
Nope, that day is all about the child. Gift giving for the purpose of motherhood has it’s own day – Mothers’ Day.
I would bring flowers, if I felt compelled to bring anything. Normally, I would bring nothing for the mother other than a smile, a hug and a congratulatory sentence or two about their wonderful child.
NO!
Actually give me a gift too.
The gift you give to her child IS a present for the mother!
@willbrawn I was thinking about that, too. So, would that be 3 gifts? Or could I do a childs gift & a joint gift for mom & dad?
If you are attending as the parent of a child that was invited, staying is a huge gift to the mother. It’s like giving the gift of baby-sitting.
If the kid is, like, one or whatever, then the gift for the kid is also a gift for the parents.
I’ve never heard of giving a parent a present. I mean, maybe bring something for the party…like food or something. But, no actual gift is customary
The only thing you might give the mother is an offer to help out at the party. That doesn’t mean sitting around with the other moms and expect to be treated as a guest.
Unless it is mom’s birthday, too, and you are a good friend, I would skip the extra gift.
A birthday is for the ones birth being celebrated and unless it’s twins one gift is customary.
I have never heard of that, but if you know her well, ask how you can help.
@Shecky_Johnson…if you plan on presenting a “joint gift” you may want to make sure the parents are “cool” with it first
@Mr_M unless it’s toys, then you’re just giving more stuff for her to clean up ; )
While it’s a very kind gesture, it’s not necessary. It really is a nice thought! I’m not really big on presents, anyway, I never have been. I might feel a bit uncomfortable.
Staying and helping is a fantastic idea, like EP said!
I do not think you need to give a gift to the mom. However if you are giving it as a hostess gift- just a little thank you always is appreciated.
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