To those on fluther who are neither heterosexual nor homosexual, do you tell someone you want to date that you are bi/pan/omnisexual before you get serious, as you're getting serious or after?

Uh…....if you are neither heterosexual nor homosexual, whats left?

I tend to lay it all out. I guess I am bi-sexual by default. If I’m talking to you and the “conversations” are leading to a romantic excursion in this game of life, than you’d have spent enough time with me to know that I don’t factor a person’s sexual organs when trying to deduce wither or not I’d like to spend some good times with the person.

I usually date my friends, or people who I know well enough for them to already know. Or I have thus far! So it’s always been something they know before we start dating. But if I started dating someone who didn’t know I think it would come up pretty soon into the relationship… Especially if they were a guy. I would NOT be able to handle a hetero relationship with a guy who isn’t cool with the gays. I guess thinking about it, I might be a little more tentative about it if they were a woman since lesbians can be a little bi-phobic when it comes to relationships.

@Cardinal…Really?? This will get complicated fast. May I recommend reading up on the Kinsey Scale for starters? Then we can get into the more advanced queer theory…

I don’t discuss my past sexual experiences with someone I just started dating. I don’t think it matters right away. I don’t consider myself bisexual, because allthough I like women, I can’t see myself having a full blown relationship with one. I am sexually attracted to women, I fantasize about women, but I want a relationship I want a man. Im not sure what its called, but i dont really need a label. So long story short, if I’m dating someone (male) I will at some point tell them I am attracted to women, but it won’t be right away.

like holden, being pansexual is so much a part of my life and who i am, the fact that i’ve had relations with the same sex usually comes up almost right away with the people i date, before i start dating them. if not, i make a point to casually bring it up somehow. i’m pretty coy. i don’t like to be like, “HI I’M PANSEXUAL, YOU?”

These are some good answers so far. I was just wondering because I have felt a tad dishonest when not making it known until after the relationship has gotten kind of serious. As I said, this has never been a problem. However, a question asked last night made me wonder if maybe I wasn’t doing things right. I just wanted to see what others said.

Before things get serious. I’m pretty damn open with my sexuality, so.

If they ask, I tell. Otherwise, it shouldn’t be an issue. I’m with them at that time, and that’s where it ends. If I love someone, I will go to the end of the earth for them, regardless of who I’ve been with in the past.