@resmc I think that the more you rub shoulders with the “other” no matter what that otherness consists of (skin color, sexual orientation, age, physical abilities, beauty, strength, musicality, intelligence, creativity, religious views, type of work, etc, etc), the more you see them as people you can be comfortable. This works for almost every type of other group, except Republicans. There is no understanding Republicans (but I digress).
Some of the categories I mentioned are “protected” categories. That is, it is illegal to discriminate on the basis of status in those categories. Everything else we are legally allowed to discriminate between people based on status in those categories.
Anyway, growing up, I wasn’t around African-Americans, Jews, rich people, Republicans, war supporters, city people, and probably a host of other types of people. I could never, in a million years, imagine living in New York City, that place of pollution, filth, crime and danger. When I lived there, I discovered it was a wonderful place.
I had no idea what a homosexual was, so I really didn’t have too much of an opinion one way or the other, but when I got to college, they were all over the place. My roommate was gay. Quickly, I learned they were just like everyone else. At college there were also a lot of Jews and I discovered that I was one, too. How’s that for an experience meeting the “other?”
Later, in the work world, it was feminists, activists, politicians, union folks, and blacks. Not surprisingly, all turned out to be just people, when you get to know them. Sure, each group has it’s own unique subcultural behaviors and ways of speaking, and it can be a little daunting getting to know these things, but eventually you do, and it all makes sense.
So now, I’ve lived in many urban areas, and one rural area, but never in the suburbs. In my opinion, suburbs are death. Is this an unreasonably prejudice? I don’t think so. But perhaps if I lived there, I might find otherwise.
My point is that without exposure to the “other” prejudice will survive. If we can find a way for people to cross the divide and meet each other, much prejudice will wither on the vine.