Real men don't cry?
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April 2nd, 2009
A woman at work told us that her hubby cries easily – like at movies. I didn’t see anything wrong with that – I cry easily too – but someone said that if her husband cried in front of her she’d be uncomfortable. Would you?
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I wouldn’t feel uncomfortable. In fact, it’d be nice to see my partner (stone-cold emotionless guy) cry, it’d show me that he’s human instead of the Vulcan he is now!
I hate that saying. I think it puts pressure on guys starting at a young age not to cry. What a burden! Men should feel free to show their emotions just like women do, and not be stigmatized for it.
IMO, a real man will cry because he’s not afraid to let down his guard.
I think if my boyfriend cried in front of me, I would be uncomfortable. But only because that’s not like him. If I was with someone who I knew from the beginning was more likely to, I wouldn’t be uncomfortable.
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I wish men would do this more often, I have only seen my husband cry three times since we have been together, it made me love him more and it also showed a side I was longing to see.
Unfortunately men are raised and taught to believe that boys must be strong (take the two young princes when their mother princess Diana died, it was sad to see that they had to suppress their real emotions) cry boys, we love it..:)
Nah, I might gently tease them, but only because I don’t cry easy. But it wouldn’t bother me at all.
I was told it is only appropriate for a man to cry in front of his woman if she bites down.
But on a serious note, it depends on the guy. If you’re guy cries a lot, you’d be used to it and viewed as normal. If you date a guy who doesn’t cry then it would be weird to see hin do so.
Real men cry. Real men don’t cry. Unreal men…. well, they don’t do anything at all, do they?
I’m not a very manly guy, but I don’t cry a lot.
It’s not that I’m like, tough or something. I just deal with stress differently I guess. Mostly laughing. (Not in a “Haha, I don’t care” way, more a “I don’t know why I’m laughing” way.)
I wish I cried about stressful things more often, to be honest though. It’s always very cathartic when I do, and relieves the stress considerably.
I’m okay with men crying. I’m less okay with men whining. Let those tears roll guys, it’s good for you.
I cry pretty easy. I have several times in front of my gf. I’m sure she’s used to it by now lol. Usually we cry together though because we’re fighting or making up. When she cries it makes me want to cry and vice versa.
I cried at the film Milk only a few days ago.
I’ve seen my husband cry. He cried when our son was born, he has cried when we’ve had a nasty fight (back when we were dating), he sometimes cries when he gets super stressed and worries about providing for his family. Crying is healthy. Most men tend to do it in private, which is fine. But, men do cry.
I dated one guy that would cry over every little thing, it was annoying. It was like he was on his man period all the time.
A man should be able to cry or express any emotion. If he’s blubbering frequently while home alone watching “Terms of Endearment” and eating ice cream…..well…
Schindler’s list made me cry… getting beat up by 7 guys during a mugging did not . My father’s death made me cry….. The impact of an automobile crash at 40 miles per hour did not.
What makes me more of a man? the fact that i can take a beating (and dish it out) or the fact that i am comfortable enough with myself that i show emotion when it arises?
It takes a real man to cry and not care about social paradigm about what constitues masculinity… not to care about what others think.
@Dr_C it’s a medical term, didn’t you know ;)
@casheroo i swear you would be so much better at my job than I am!.. plus you’d look better doing it! HOORAY for Yumyum!
Crying is fine. It is the lack of apropriate emotion that is a bigger issue.
Now if we’re talking about crying because we are out of milk…..that’s a different story
“Chuck Norris’s tears cure cancer. Too bad he never cries. Ever.”
@SeventhSense
“If he’s blubbering frequently while home alone watching “Terms of Endearment” and eating ice cream…..well…”
LOL
The last time I fought back tears – (it was in a movie theatre) was towards the end of “Gosford Park” – a scene with Helen Mirren. If you saw the movie – you know what I’m talkin’ about
No, not at all. I consider a “real man” to be any of a numer of things, I have no one definition… that can include crying, or not… I think a man that cries is “a real man” just the same as one that doesn’t, and I respect the ability that guy would have to be comfortable and open with his emotions. That’s a very rare commodity.
Real men aren’t afraid to cry.
My only problem with a man crying is my ex-husband. He cried at everything, but it was to manipulate the situation. I started to hate seeing anyone cry. He got himself out of more jams by crying – I’ve never seen anything like it, before.
@cak
Jeez, sounds like my little nephew
@cak
Oh definitely. I give him a hug and we move on but he knows from me that it’s not a method to get what he wants.
I cry every time I try to eat the salsa in my fridge. The green chile is fucking hot this year.
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