What should I do about BF female friend?

Maybe she’s just really protective of her friends?

How long have you known him/her? Maybe she just needs to get used to you?

Give it time. She probably is very protective and wants to be sure you are the real deal. She feels a sense of responsibility for his well being and she doesn’t want you to come along and hurt him. Give it time, prove yourself. Hopefully, if she is still being that way after 6 months or so he will set her straight.

If this woman/girl was his friend before you and bf became a couple then it’s likely she is very protective of him still, having gone through bad times with him. If she wants something more from him, that’s on her- what will matter is how he feels about any intent she’s got and how he acts on it. Power shifts are normal, just hold your own as his chosen gf and respect she’s holding her ground as his “friend” and as time passes maybe you all will settle in without suspicions.

1) YOU are the new person in his life. It’s her prerogative to be protective. It’s you that has to prove your worth to her.

2) What do you care what her intentions are? Even if she wants to jump him every time she sees him, that won’t happen unless your guy feels the same. If you trust him that he has no feelings for her, that should be enough. Trust him to be an adult and do the right thing. If you can’t trust him enough to not cheat on you simply because another female declares herself attracted, what the heck are you doing in this relationship?

When I was in college, my husband and a bunch of his single, dateless friends hung out with two guys who had girlfriends who were best friends. Every time one of the single guys found a girlfriend, the two girls would get all weird and possessive. It was as if the Queen Bees were losing their “court.” It sounds like the same thing is going on—Queen Bee is having to go back to being her husband’s wife, because the admirer is admiring elsewhere…

Thanks for all the advice. Maybe I should have elaborated a little more. We have been dating for about a year now. When she comes over she excludes everyone from the conversation. All her attention is focus strickly on my BF. If he sits down on the sofa she sits right next to him so close that the is no space what so ever between them. She is constantly touching him also. Constantly playing with his hair, rubbing his back etc. etc. It is one of those things if you didn’t know better you would think she was his GF. I do trust HIM. But all these things she does just annoys me. He doesn’t pay it any attention.

Where is her husband with all this going on?

Her husband is at work. When she comes she stay a few hours. I don’t think her husband knows that she comes over and stays that long. When he calls her while she is here she goes to another room and closes the door.

Your boyfriend has to be the one to end this. Something is not right with all this.