17-yr-old daughter does not associate with any other kids in school?

Is this a change in her behavior? At 17 she’s probably a Senior? Did she have friends in her first 12 years of school?

And have you asked HER?

Edit: The other important question is “How is she with friends NOT linked to school, like neighborhood friends?”

Maybe someone hurt her feelings and she’s afraid of getting hurt again.

A good strategy would be to ask her to observe other students for a few weeks and then decide who she’s interested in most and ask that person to join her for a special event the person is likely to be interested in.

high school is hard. there are a lot of social politics that you have to learn, and hs girls can be unforgiving. this is probably where the problem is. how big is your daughters school? it is great that she is involved, but im surprised that she chooses to be isolated during rehearsals! being in a tight group of people like a musical cast usually helps individuals come out of their shell a little but, because you are learning and experiencing everything together.

just be aware that being alone all the time can have some negative effects too. depression could also stem from having no peer interactions. human beings are naturally very social. i would have a talk with her.

i would look into local community theaters. people here usually all share the same interests and they may be easier to relate to. AND she gets to do what she loves. its all about growing and learning, adults at community theaters are often great roll models too. seeing how other people interact and make friends could help her out greatly.

No one really can tell you the 100% true answer. High school is a time of drama and all sorts of stuff, so while we can identify possible reasons, there’s no way of knowing what percentage each reason contributes to the situation your daughter faces.

If she doesn’t want friends, and if she’s OK with where she is now, then there’s nothing wrong with it. Maybe she’s just a bit introverted, or could be going through such a period now.

I went through this same ordeal in high school. It’s not that I was anti social or treated badly by other students I was just never into the mindless small talk. People are quick to think that somebody sitting alone with a book is insecure and lonely when actually,a lot of the time the people who are in groups are the insecure ones. Many of the kids who cling to others are afraid of being alone because others will judge them. The only reason to be worried is if she doesn’t have a few close friends at school, church, etc., everybody needs a support system, other than family. Even if she doesn’t, college is where you meet many of your really good friends. Everybody is in the same boat as you are and are still getting used to their new surroundings. The awesome thing about a college campus is that you are bound to find somebody who shares the same interests as yourself.

High school can be hard to find friends. I had the same problem, I went to a school that was mostly wht upper class snobs. I am a very down to earth person who enjoys people. These people all seemed to enjoy others downfalls and misery so I found no common ground with them to become friends. I luckily found a girl I worked with that had common interests and beliefs and brought into the big city where there were more of a variety of people to mesh with.