Role reversal?

Asked by blaksquid (71

) April 3rd, 2009

every relationship i’ve ever had I’ve always been the guy. I was always told I never open up, etc., etc. I’m married now, and weirdly enough, I feel like the roles have been switched. When she shares her feelings, she does it like a man would. And somehow I’ve become the woman. I am affectionate to a fault, but she is the opposite. I’ve looked up marriage advice online and all the questions that woman had submitted were the same as the ones I’m feeling and the questions my wife had were just like the mens. Anyone ever been in my shoes and how did you deal with it.

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The whole “Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars” thing is a gross generalization based on stereotypes. Yes, that stereotype may apply to a large number of people, but it doesn’t mean anything is wrong if you don’t fit within it.

My marriage was generally a gender-role reversal. He wanted to share and talk and talk and talk about ancient history. I wanted to just deal and move on. Time spent in couples counseling only highlighted these differences even more.

I have to say, however, that while counseling did not fix our problems, it help incredibly with our communication. If you’re feeling frustrated or isolated, I would recommend it.

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