How long do you wait for your boyfriend to propose when you your self are ready and so is he but he wants to be 'the man' and have every thing ready before he can propose?

Define “everything ready.” If you two are clear and mature enough to want to spend the rest of your life together, this should be a dilemma easy for you both to solve. And what do you mean by “the man”? That sounds a little scary. Does that make you ” the little woman?”

a. Tell him clearly what parts of “everything” matter to you and elicit his thoughts. He may have an inflated idea of the preparation involved (relative to your expectations) or he may be making this an exercise in perfectionism.

b. If this isn’t going to be a surprise proposal, maybe guide him into breaking this “project” down into parts and get timelines going, so at least you know how far out it’ll be before he pops the question. If he’s saving for a ring, for example, how many months will that be. If you’re not the person to pursue this line of questioning/guidance, enlist someone else (whose help he’d accept). Even if I haven’t reached my goal with something, it always, always helps for me to know what constitutes progress and to see on paper at least that there is an end of the road.

Does “everything ready” mean that he wants to be able to provide for you and a family? Or does it mean that he is preparing one of those proposals where large numbers of people are involved to surprise you. If it’s the former, I suggest you wait until he is ready. If it’s the latter, and you like surprises, I suggest you also wait. If it’s the latter and you don’t want a big, fancy proposal, perhaps you can let him know. Communication is really important in a relationship, and this is a good place to begin.

You just wait until he comes around and until he things it safe to do it.
You’re lucky he doesn’t just wanna jump into it.. he wants to be able to take care of you.
Talk about marriage as much as you want but don’t scare or pressure him. He’ll ask you when he’s ready.

I agree with skfinkel. I just had this same issue. You don’t want to force it. He may not be as ready as you are (he still may need to get things “in order” before giving you the ring). The more you push the less fun, romantic, or enjoyable the entire experience is. He may also want it to be a surprise, so you discussing it all the time is keeping that from occurring. I am speaking from TOTAL experience. The moment I piped down (which was about 3 weeks ago), he proposed to me in Mexico last Saturday. You don’t want to make the experience miserable by nagging.