It seems that Westboro is more about hate than anything else.
The hallmark of what it means to be a Christian is simply “love”.
1Jo 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
We are to love our fellow Christians, we are to love our neighbors, we are to love our enemies. The only thing we are allowed to hate is sin, and all that it entails. Never the sinner, for none of us is without sin, thus we shouldn’t cast stones!
There are some that take issue and say that we are to hate father, mother, wife, children, etc. or we cannot follow God (Luk 14:26), but if taken in context, its speaking of sacrificing, and our willingness to forsake all in following God. He also talks about hating ones own self. He speaks of carrying one’s cross, the ultimate denial and sacrifice of self.
He further illustrates about counting the cost to be sure one can and is able to make such a commitment, with the builder who didn’t have enough money to finish the project.
Its not at all that Jesus was admonishing us to hate those close to us, only that our love for God should be so powerful, that all other loves would pale in comparison.
As a Christian I find Westboro reprehensible to the highest degree! God doesn’t hate any one, for His nature is Love. One might point out the man Esau, for it states “Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated” and yet the Hebrew word there can easily be translated ‘despise’ and in this regard, God despised Esau for the man despised his birth right, which was a blessing all Hebrews recognize is ultimately from God.
One thing God does hate is being misrepresented, and I would submit that the deeds of Westboro church and their statements are something that God indeed hates.
On another note, if one truly loves another, they will tell them the truth as necessary. The Bible does teach (regardless of liberal theology and interpreting of scripture) that homosexuality is a sin. YET, we as believers are not to disparage, mock, ridicule, belittle, or shame the homosexual, but rather have a heart of love and compassion for them. I think Christianity at large has failed to a large extent in this arena.
We would do well to listen to the hearts of these folks, learn from them why they are the way they are, and demonstrate our concern and interest in their lives, before we ever begin to share with them what the LORD would have us to.
I have friends and acquaintences that are homosexual and they know where I stand, and yet we are able to disagree agreeably; and some of them hold me dear, regardless of my biblical view. I think this is possible because even though I hold the views I do, I still love them, and care about them.