I like my best friend, but i dont want to tell him that because i dont want to ruin our friendship. what do I do?

have you told him how you feel?

no, im to worried that it will ruin everything, i just dont know that its worth the risk.

how long have you know him?
and just a question, how old are you? not in a creepy way if you must know i’ll tell you my age.

about a year, and 16

Okay. well im 20.
So you guys are really close?
I was in a situation like you are in now.
If i was you, i’d tell him.

If he’s really your best friend then he’ll stick by you no matter what. It may be a little weird and awkward if he doesn’t have the same feelings as you but he’ll get past it.

yes we are very close, and im just like, gosh i really wish he could just see how much i like him, but i’d rather us just be friends then not talk at all, because i weirded him out.

you weird him out? did he say that?

but if you did find it awkward, it wouldn’t be long. It’s better to know then never know at all. I would personally like to know he didn’t like me then keep my mouth shut and never know

no he didnt, but i have had friends just bring it up in conversation and they say, i think you should date raven, and says we are too close. and he will call me and be like i just wish i could find a girl who would not cheat on me and we could hang out and just be cool with each other. and im just thinkkinn justt ask mee! lol

well from what you have told me it makes me think he does like you. Guys wanted to be chased, especially at that age Is he older then you?

Guys wont admit that they like you to your friends, their not that stupid. he knows that if he says “Yes” then it will get back to you fast. Like i said if i were you i’d do it. but do it when your alone.

i know you want him, but maybe he’s having the same problem you are? ever think of that?

one year older, and i have thought that, but then im just like i doubt it, because he could probably get any girl he wanted, so why would he go for me. i think i migh do it

One year is no big deal. I’ve always went for men older then me.
I think you should do it.
Like i said, if he really likes you then he won’t stop being your best friend. But tell him when your alone. Like at your house.

you think a txt is kinda…. i guess lame would be the right word.

And if he does turn you down, the next day act like nothing happened. Also i would tell him when he’s in a good mood. And flirt a little to. When you tell him put your hand on his knee or hand.

And if i were you, i wouldn’t text him. Not that it’s lame but when you tell him you will be able to his facal expressions.

Also, is this a guys who’s really sexy and your a not so popular girl.
or are you two from the same crowd
or is he’s a little less popular then you.

we are pretty much the same popular wise, its just there are so many pretty girls that he could date, and i have a very pretty face, im just bigger than all of them. and im not huge, just a little bigger. and he has dated girls and im just like wtf he will date her but he wont date me?

when you say bigger do you mean big breast and a big ass or chunky?

chunky, lol(:

like the girls in my grade would wear a bikini and i wouldnt dare,

btw i would make two questions about the same thing.

AND i definatly think you should do this.

Like you i have a pretty face. fair skin and big baby blue eyes. Im also sorta top heavy and have a nice ass. nice flat stomach too.

but what im trying to say is just becasue your “chunky” which there is nothing wrong with that. But just becasue you don’t wear a bikini doesn’t mean he would slip into bed with you. if a guy really likes you then he’ll want to make love with you. now don’t get me wrong, lots of guys just want SEX . But since you two have been best friends i highly doubt that he would use you. Sorry if this doesn’t make since.

not trying to sound cocky.

haha, i have like honey eyes, i guess i have boobs, and i have a nice butt. but my stomach is a bit bigger than everybody elses, and all my friends say we would look so cute together, but he would use me, and im smarter than that, i wouldnt let him.

why do they think he would use you?

i guess he is a player, he dates girls, and if they break up with him then he dates somebody else, he has three girls that he dates and like swithes between

wow. im so glad im not in high school anymore.

but yeah when i was in high school, there were a few guys like that. first ask him ” why the fuck is he using these girls and also he should smarten the fuck up”

yeaa, and my friends say, just wait that guy will find youu, but damn im sick of waiting, lol(:

well then TELL HIM how you feel. you’ll kill yourself waiting to find out… either he does or doesn’t BUT flirt with him while telling him

okayy(: thanks, i will let youu know how it turns outt(:

your welcome. and i hope everything turns out well. and i would like to hear how things turn out!

I was in kinda the same thing a little bit ago. My best friend felt that way about me and told me he loved me. I asked about it in a ealier post. But if you really can see yourself with him then let him know how you feel. but also know that if you tell him and he does not feel the same thigns can change very easily between you two.

thats what im worried about, i dont think its worth the risk.

If you don’t think it’s worth the risk then don’t risk it.

But really think abotu it before you make a move. Because they say friendship turns into the best relationships, but then its the worry that it will ruin things.

I almost told him the other night. He has heard from others that i like him, but i just denied it. I want it to be more but i guess in the end you’re right, its not worth losing him completely.

Yeah my best friend told me he loved me and I had to tell him I only saw him as a friend. It killed me to tell him that but I couldn’t ruin the freindship. I did it already will another close friend and now me and him don’t even speak to one another.

But don’t get me wrong there are people out there who do take the risk and it works out for them very well. It all depends on what feels right to you. And whether he shows any interest in you.

Yea, i understand, well thanks i am getting off, i will be back on soon(:

Alright, hope things work out for ya.