What do you think of love relations between people having a high age difference, especially when the man is younger?

I think in most situations when they man is older it is received better by society because 1) guys mature later than girls, so it could put them at more of an equal playing field maturity-wise and 2) in heterosexual relationships men are viewed as the “strong” and “supportive” ones, whereas women are the weaker ones who need supporting. So, if the man is older he is perceived as wiser, more financially stable, which fits right into the societal stereotype and makes sense to people. A younger man and older women doesn’t as much, and therefore confuses people.
But hey, fuck societal standards

Hey, if you’re happy, that’s all that matters. Who cares what others think.

I’m with @jmah. If you are both consenting adults, who cares?

Some women prefer the naiivite and stamina of a younger man.Different strokes for different folks.I see nothing wrong.

A guy who asked me on a date wonders the same thing, he could technically be my child and I am uncomfortable with that so I say no. So far. I’m curious now to what the consensus from the jellies will be.

It’s common knowledge that men reach their sexual peak in their late teens & early 20’s. Women, on the other hand, reach their’s later in life. I can attest to that! Oh, what I couldn’t do with a 30–40 some year old man!!!

just a matter of what people are used to seeing.
your relationship actually contributes to how normal it will seem the next time we hear of such a case.

@jbfletcherfan Can you elaborate?

If the relationship makes you and your SO happy, what does it matter what others think. It is so hard to find happiness these days, that you should embrass it when you can.

@VzzBzz I’m shocked!

@Wildman sure, in an email

I think people are dubious about May-September relationships because the disparity in maturity makes it easy to manipulate and take advantage of the younger partner. THis is why companies and Universities have strong policies against such relationships. Some people believe that such relationships are, ipso facto, exploitative relationships, no matter what the people in them say.

In societies where plural marriage is allowed, these kind of relationships are more common. If you can afford to take care of them, every decade or so, you add a new wife. The same thing kind of happens in monogamous societies. The guy divorces his wife after she’s brought up the kids, and he marries someone new, and as young as his former wife was when they got married. Some men go through several generations of women this way.

Who knows what the truth is in any relationship? Maybe the older person is exploiting the younger for sex. We all want to be with someone who is beautiful and has a firm body. However, as we grow older, our bodies generally become more slack. If we’re mature, I think we learn to love each other through all the changes.

I suppose it’s possible to have an equal relationship with a high age disparity, but it is more difficult.

@ru2bz46: you are shocked only because I said, no.

@VzzBzz Of course! Any guy would be crazy not to ask you out, no matter how young he is.

I think the opposite situation is usually better perceived because generally the man is thought of as being the provider, and if you are a nineteen year old who can provide for two people then that’s great. Generally speaking, you are both at ages where you are in your sexual prime, so it is understandable why you are attracted to each other. I think as long as you are on the same wavelength and maturity level, age is only a number.

If people aren’t judging the two of you because of your age difference (and 27 years is quite a gap) they either judge you because you are young and they think, naive or inexperienced, or they judge her because she’s a “cougar”. It’s a fairly popular insult these days. Still others will just judge you because they don’t think it could ever possibly last. Women’s motivations for getting with much older men are commonly expected to be money or severe daddy issues. Men’s motivations haven’t been explored as thoroughly but I think a lot of people would blame some amount of sexual curiosity or immaturity. Not that there haven’t been some perfectly healthy and loving relationships between older men and younger women, or younger men and older women. But that being said, I don’t know of any personally.

As far as my own dating policy I just tend to ask myself “did this person lose their virginity before I was born?”

@daloon Your answer is what I would say, the perception of exploitation. My hubby was 24 when we met, I 32, but we’ve never seen any sort of discrimination.

I’m in something similar, but with less of an age gap.

I’m 20, she’s 29. I’m for whatever makes people happy. My family seems okay with it.

I guess that’s all that matters. If the people you care about aren’t against it, who gives a damn?!

I think it’s fine.
(But I wouldn’t want my kids doing it.)

Eh- Age is just a number. If you’re happy, that’s what matters.

Take him from his mama and train him right!(just kidding, that applies if both are young!) If you are happy to hell with it. Society is changing, why not have a younger man? Men have been trading wives in forever. Can’t we do the same? Oh yeah, that makes us Cougars and not kittens! Too funny, a man must have come up with that one!

I THINK IT IS FANTASTIC!!!!!!!GET AFTER IT!!!!!!

With the world full of so many lonely unhappy people, why would it matter in what way people are happy together.

As long as she isnt trying to trick him into baby or use his naivity against him by controlling him

Skanky Cougar on the prowl!

Omq i think your tooo young for her. People may judge you because they think she your mother and then they see you two kissing and holding hands so they think its strange. =]

THEN THEY THINK OF KISSING THEIR OWN MOTHERS!!

It’s up to you, you’re a man now so you choose what you feel is right for you and how you will tolerate what others may think. Keep in mind people observing are pretty shrewd, they can pick up on details that will say either, “that’s a couple in love” or “that’s an opportune hookup”. When a couple is in love and well matched, their friends and close family come around pretty easily to differences like age or social status.