Is it weird for a junior girl to date a guy that is a freshmen?

No. It’s not weird. You’ll find that the older you get, the less age differences matter in a relationship.

A little weird – for a couple reasons.

1. Why is he a 16 year-old freshman? Was he held back a few years? If he has problems in school that affect him so greatly, that could easily affect a relationship with him – especially since you’re keeping up with your own age group.

2. For the time-being it’s not weird. But in about 4 months, you’ll be a SENIOR. And that will be a world of difference. You will be doing fun Senior things – skip days, graduation, tests, prom, etc. He will feel left out, and likely you will get preoccupied with this exciting time in your life. Not likely to work out.

When you get to college and beyond, then age will stop mattering as much. But while in high school, the grade difference (which is a much bigger deal than the age difference) is enough that you’ll probably end up hurting him and dumping him inside of 3–6 months…tops.

ya..he failed first grade. But I dont no. I like him alot but I have a feeling I will hurt him. And I will be a senior dating a sophmore. I will be 18, while he is still 16. ugh..everything is so complicated.

That’s another problem – that whole statutory rape thing. He’ll be a minor while you’ll be an adult. It’s a sticky age.

Far be it from me to say you shouldn’t follow your heart….but the odds aren’t great for you guys.

Add to the above that girls tend to mature faster than boys. You might find that the age gap matters less than the maturity gap.

@bananafish
It’s only statutory rape if someone declares statutory rape. Assuming that they won’t be having sex in public, that’s virtually a non-issue.

@Vinifera7 – Yes, you’re right….technically. But if either of their parents decide to make it an issue they could.

@MissAusten – completely agree. Why didn’t I think of that? Emmy23, you’ll probably find very soon that you have a LOT more in common with seniors and college guys.

…but that realization will come soon enough, with or without your consent. For now, if this is the guy you like, go for it! And enjoy the May-December (haha) romance while it lasts. It just probably won’t be for very long.

I’d say there’s so much over-reaction and tendency to make comments about the age difference, that the more you ignore them, the closer you’ll be to an appropriate perspective. Don’t worry about it. If it doesn’t bother you, don’t let other people bother you about what’s not their business.

One point five years is no problem at all.

do what you gotta go… my parents were 15 years apart… my last girlfriend was 3 years older than me… it’s all perspective.

Relationships are based on sharing and caring and enjoying each others company. It is seldom based on age (unless one is a minor then it would be unlawful).

If you enjoy spending time together then age should not make a difference.

No, it’s not a big deal at all.

The heart knows, what the heart wants.

that will make all the other cougars in senior class super jealous

The only problem here is that boys mature alot slower than girls. So dating a younger man is a little iffy.
But other than that, you’re young, you like him, go for it.

I think its great! God bless the young man!

@MissAusten and @bananafish

You guys turned out to be right. He is so immature I cant stand it. He knows nothing about a mature relationship. ugh. I broke it off and I do like older guys.

When I was 16 I dated a girl that was 20. I stayed over at her place every weekend, and lived with her during the summers. On my 18th birthday we got our own place, and we remained a couple for 3 additional years.

Not all young guys are immature :)

dont think it matters girl if you both are in love thats the main thing as of age its not that big gap.my boyfriend is 18 and am 20 and we have been dating since he was 16 and i was 18 i was worried about the two and a halp years but he was mature and we didnt end up caring because he understood me more then some on 5 or more years older then me. before him i dated some one who was 29 and we had no connection at all.

ok

The heart wants what the heart wants. and maybe some people will disaprove, but in the end, it is what you want, not what others want for you. Heck, have you ever been set up on a blind date. God, and they thought this is what I wanted. You gotta be kidding. Do they think so little of me. Oh well, what might look good to outsiders is not what is good for you

I don’t think its weird. I started dating my boyfriend when he was a freshman and I was a senior. Everyone told me how weird it was then and how it wouldn’t last. We’ve been together for almost 5 years now and we plan on getting married. Guess we proved them wrong.

Do what you want to do. Don’t be afraid of what others might think. It’s your own life. It’s also for now—who knows what it will be or if it will be at all in six months.

No its isn’t weird. My brother was a class behind his girlfriend and they grew up to become husband and wife.

Nope, been there, done that. DO NOT let people tell you that it’s weird. DO NOT let it ruin your relationship. What matters is how you feel about it.

Why not try it out and see what happens? When I was in 8th grade, I dated a 6th grader. Now that was weird, but as you get older it doesn’t really make a difference.

@bananafish in some states a 16 and 18 year old having sex is not statuatory rape.

Not weird at all. The only thing you should be worried about is that if you too will be focused on your studies… otherwise “freshman”, “junior” who cares?

That’s not even that big of an age difference. Don’t worry about it too much.

OH MAN!!! Well this was me in High School. I was the Fr. and she was the Jr. much like you 2. Here is the kicker. HIGH SCHOOL SUCKS!! ha ha. Really though in the NORMAL world you would be fine but I high school I think you may get some crap for dating a freshman. It’s stupid but every time you will find yourself saying “well he is only a year and a half apart from me”. I mean that’s so stupid to explain yourself. If you really like this guy go for it, you got one more year and sorry but high school doesn’t matter and your prob not going to marry the guy, just do it for the experience and have fun! Life is to short to get bent on what other people think.

When you do this in high school everyone makes a big deal out of it. I was a senior dating a freshman. I was the youngest in the class and he has been held back a year. We were a year apart in age. You’d have thought we were committing high treason. His parents eventually raised a major stink about it with my parents forcing us to not have any further association.
His was risen to higher status in high school while I was relegated to the role of class slut.
Nice huh. I don’t recommend doing this until you are both in your twenties. Once in your twenties these moronic prejudices evaporate.