I’ve been trying to force my children to turn into little monsters for as long as they’ve been alive. Starting in the first month, I refused to put diapers on them. If crapping on the ground is good enough for monkeys, it’s good enough for my kids. The darn kids found a way to get at the diapers and diaper themselves!
I tried the no-vegetable trick, too. We’d heap our plates high with broccoli, beans, artichokes and tomatoes, and covered with a thick layer of ketchup. When they asked for some, we refused, telling them to eat their meat and sweets. They’d beg us pitifully for just a scrap of lettuce or a leaf from the artichoke. It tore at our hearts, but we stood strong. We did not budge an inch. Our reward? The damn kids love broccoli and artichokes and ketchup. The only thing they don’t like is peas. I blame that on a failing on our part. We forgot to include peas in our vegetable medley.
Next drugs and alcohol. We’d tell then over and over that they should be drinking and smoking. My reward? Every time I drink a beer, they yell at me, telling me not to get drunk, or drive cars, and they’ll never grow up to be like their dear old dad, swigging down the suds! We encourage them to experiment with drugs and cigarettes, and yet, once again, we are failures. You do not want to hear them lecture on the horrors of illegal drug use. It would make you want to crawl into a coffin and bury yourself ten feet under.
I hesitate to tell you this, for it will show you how bad we are, as parents, but when we tried to get them to play with guns and swords and matches, they utterly refused. My son will climb trees, and go on the roof of the house, but he refuses to fall out or off of either.
The worst of all is music. We kept telling them that music was only for adults. Entirely inappropriate for children. I could hurt their ears. Since we had indulged in our sinful youth, our ears were already broken. They were not, under any circumstance, to touch the piano in the dining room. We’d shut the cover so fast, their fingers would be cut off! Imagine our horror when we came home one day to find them playing and singing “Heart and Soul” at the top of their lungs.
Anyway, I tell this as a cautionary tale. It doesn’t work to tell kids not to do things. Those are exactly the things they will do!