What constitutes the "real" you?
Is the “real” you the person you are inside your head, that often comes out in writing, such as how you portray yourself and are perceived on Fluther, and other writing? Is it the way you present yourself in real life? Or is it the way people perceive you, and react to you in real life?
Would you recognize traits of yourself in another person?
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I think the real me is how I portray myself in real life. I think you can get more of a feel about whether or not you genereally like someone by getting to know them in person. If your online all you can off of is what you read.
But in person you can view there body language and facial expressions, which sometimes speak louder then their words. I try to be as real as I can to whoever I meet. If you like me for who I am we can become the best of friends. If you don’t like me, well your missing out.
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This is more me than most will ever see, Alfreda.
maybe everything is the real you every second of every day everything you do. the only difference being.. how long someone gets to know you.
i think this is why we can seem like a jerk in some cases and then like a great person after we come to be known by our accuser. there’s just so much to us you can’t capture all of “the real us” in a single sitting. sometimes we can’t even see the “real” us. only “god” knows the real us seeing us across all time and all situations.
The me I portray here is the me who I am in real life. [whoooo that’s a doozy of a sentence!]
Although I don’t volunteer as many answers as I do here, when I feel the time is appropriate [hit and miss] I offer my insights. My humor is quirky, as it is here, even corny. I embrace my corniness!
I do tend to be more biting on Fluther than I am in real life, where I am much more tactful. Everyone in real life believes I’m like the sweetest little pumpkin and has cutesy names for me… like sweet pea, sugar dumpling, honey bunches, ad nauseam [just kidding, i love those names! sigh.]
It’s simpler to remain the same all the time. It’s the most stress free thing in the world.
I am the same no matter how you look at me. The people that know me will agree.
Has you ever watched that show “Lie to Me” ?
please to stop has’ing nao. :D
In person, I can be quite random, and have a hard time articulating my thoughts. When I do talk, I tend to get caught up in details, and talk too much. I cover shyness with a sense of humor and self-deprecation. I avoid arguments and disagreements.
The real me is not the way I present myself in real life.
They brainwash us every given second of the day.
Maybe someday I will be the same person I present myself in real life. But I truly hope this won’t happen any time soon.
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was that like… from the 70’s?
sowwy. It’s in black and white, and the style is, different
you guys are assholes lol, I made a typo! Kill me!
@Zen, Aaah, KD Lang’s renditions on “Hymns From the 49th Parallel” sublime
Which, in a round about way, brings us back on topic…Inside my head, I can sing like KD Lang, out side my head…let’s just say, when my daughter was 3, she put her hand over my mouth, and said. “Mommy, don’t sing. Really, mommy. Don’t sing.”
I do apologize for the topic digressing, we were speaking about the “real me”.
I’d say @ninjacolin is on the right track. Both what we think about ourselves and what others think about us are way too restrictive and try to solidify and define something that is fundamentally fluid and undefinable. Those internal and external interpretations of who we are may have some limited usefulness, but they’re far from “real”.
@AlfredaPrufrock I Loves KD – notice how almost all the Canadian singers are awesome…
Have you heard her sing Cry (Roy Orbison)?
btw – which is your fave rend. of Bird on a Wire after this one?
[mod says] Can we please keep the discussion on-topic?
Sorry. I’ll comment you @alfreda, by the way, the water’s nice at the Reef.
What remains once you forget everything people have said about me in the last 48 years.
Whatever perception that people form about me by reading the answers I compose here on Fluther is going to be an accurate reflection of my real life persona. I’m articulate, sarcastic, friendly, understanding, mellow, happy-go-lucky, caring, generous, kind, honest, and sincere.
What you see (and what you read) is what you get.
Blue, will you have my baby?
I think the real me/you is difficult to pin down. The closest you may get is probably the sum of all that you can get. Meaning the ‘real’ me is an amalgation of ‘all of the above’ and more -including other people’s possible misconceptions of me. Real truth is an evasive thing. The next best is to have all the pieces. Or as much of it as you can get.
Gosh, I think when I finally figure that out, I’ll probably be seeing that “light at the tunnel” effect when the death chemicals kick in.
What do you mean by “real?” Do you mean the person who isn’t lying or hiding something? Do you mean complete? Do you mean as others see you, or as you see yourself? Is it when you are being yourself to the fullest? Is it when you show more of yourself than anywhere else?
I don’t see how I could begin to answer this question. I do believe, though, that if you didn’t see me everywhere I do stuff, you won’t know the real me.
I mean the true you. People have the person that goes out, and conducts their daily life, and they have a self-perception of themselves and act accordingly. Often, other people don’t see you as you try to be, or as you are buried deep down inside. They react to how they perceive you to be. Then there are people whose lives in person are relatively solitary, but through what they write and what goes on in their heads, have rich, fanciful lives. Sometimes the three are the same, but often they’re not.
Which one is the real you? Can’t they all be a part of the real you?
@Zen—please tell me which ones are real, and which ones aren’t? Please?
@Zen: Come on. Next round’s on me!
@daloon This is your ass. Not mine, buddy.
Come on, dude. Relax. Have a laugh!
The ‘real you’ surfaces when you can laugh at your ‘fake you’.
your life expereinces and accomplishments
@daloon I am relaxed, and laughing too. Smatterchew?
The true me? If time permits, contemplating the world how it might look like in a few decades. The untrue me? Dealing with the administration of budget cuts in our information technology division.
This is all me, but there are so much more of me than comes out here. It’s not possible to know me by reading just what I write, but what I write here is what I say in real life.
I have no idea how I am perceived. I am sure it’s different from who I see myself as.
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