In social websites like this one, what is your opinion about people divulging your real name or copying & pasting excerpts from chatrooms into forum posts?

I think anyone that knows me well enough to know my name or chat with me would be able to use that info with discreetness. But it might be different for other people. I think we all have our own rules when it comes to that.

I’ve found out that there are unspoken rules. In one of my questions, I wrote the real name of someone in real life that I was having a conflict with, and the moderators took it down until I removed his name. (Which I think is probably the right thing to do, in hindsight).

I prefer if you know my name to keep it to yourself. I’ll readily tell some people, but it’s unique enough that growing up I became very protective of it. Everyone would hear it and exclaim their new found dream of naming a baby that. Kinda weird. And no thanks.

As for copy/pasting things I’ve said with my username? Fine by me. As long as it does justice to the original context and isn’t meant to twist my words.

i know asmonet’s name mwhahahahaha. i shall go to each question and post it!

Hahaha, posted at the exact same moment. Nice one, cash.

@asmonet: how would you feel if someone copied and pasted parts of your fluther chat into a non fluther website posting, would that make you uncomfortable?

@asmonet we may or may not be talking about you somewhere. join us.

Hmm, not particularly.
I guess because I’ve always assumed that when you put something on the internet you forfeit the ability to control it. Like if I dropped fliers in a stairwell. I can’t make people ignore it, pick it up or share it with their neighbor. For all I know they could grab a bunch and drop it down another stairwell across the building.

Can’t help it. :)

How would anyone find out my “real” name? I don’t have any problem with people sharing my work, I have no expectation of exclusivity. Of course, the owners of fluther might object, since they own the content of this entire site.

I do my best to avoid it. I like being known by my screen name alone.

In chat, we often use our real first names. Mine is so commonplace that I have no problem with everyone knowing what it is (Lisa, BTW). However, I’d be kind of upset if someone copy/pasted a portion of my chat comments into a legitimate question. It’s a whole different world. That said, I realize I couldn’t stop anyone from doing so.

I think it’s reckless and irresponsible.
It’s disappointing when people don’t think about how their actions affect others when posting

i think it’s wrong.

Pretty shitty.

The thing about the chat is that you believe honestly that you’re just talking to the people in that room. If the chat is shared with strangers far and wide, it would feel like a private get together was filmed without my knowledge or permission, with the conversation shared with the world at large if it is reposted. That really doesn’t sit well with me. I would feel betrayed.

well, you’re online after all. General rule of thumb, if you don’t want it out there don’t present it.

There is no privacy in online chats :)

It’s a bad thing to do, but, I’ve seen the best of “friends” on another site stoop to that level when they got mad at each other for something. You really can’t give out info unless you’re prepared for it to be circulated. Sad, but true.

I’m curious, did this happen on fluther? I’ve never seen it happen.

@casheroo: yes, it did happen in the fluther chatroom. Someone I used to interact with from another site copied and pasted excerpts from the fluther chatroom to use in their comment to a post complaining about fluther on that other site. It’s wasn’t someone I would have suspected to be careless or malicious like that but as TaoSan says, looks like online is all up for grabs, sadly.

@VzzBzz Wow, that’s a different scenario than I had imagined. I don’t think that should be allowed, I think the moderators should know about it actually.

The user in question has been a repeat offender of the “While im on fluther I’m going to passive agressively bitch about fluther while pretending to be objective and report back to wisdm avoid how much they suck” trend.

@VzzBzz

I’m sorry you had that experience. The pettiness of some people is mind-boggling. The only consolation you have is knowing that a person displaying such a behavior is nothing but petty, meaningless, useless and probably all the aforementioned IRL plus ugly.

My experience with trolls like that, is that the second you get some RL info about them it becomes obvious what petty insignificant people they are. Sometime even a pic tells you more than a thousand words ;)

…not cool, but welcome to the real “crappy” world… each has their own reason(s) for being on these sites- venting, fantasy, working on and on and on- to each his/her own…

@BookReader

Couldn’t agree more. Welcome to Fluther!

(again?)

Thank you for the welcome TaoSan!!!