When you are going through a major life change would you rather people ask about it or pretend it isn't happening?

As most of you know I have gone through some pretty major life changes recently (divorce chief among them). I find it rather interesting that most of my family is just avoiding me rather than asking me what is going on and how things are going. I talked to a sister-in-law today who said she didn’t want to pry so she hasn’t said anything, but I know she is talking to other people about what is happening. So would you rather be left alone at times like that or would you rather people just come out and ask if they are curious?