Should I go to my high school reunion?

That’s the thing: You DO care this much. So, I think you should go!

Be sure to only go for yourself, who cares what your old classmates think or feel?

But if you want to reconnect, revisit, then you should stop by. Your graduation status or marital status has no bearing on the fact that these people were a part of your life – probably one that has shaped who you are.

And you don’t want to go on wondering, “What if I had gone….what if?

You’re right. You shouldn’t care this much. If you weren’t close to anyone and didn’t graduate from there, unless you still live there or have some other reason for traveling to the area, I see no reason to go. If people get in touch and are really sad they missed you, and you care, you can always make plans to see them elsewhere. Otherwise is seems like a lot of stress and little reward.

Same boat.. I hated them. No need to relieve the abuse.

“I was never really close to any of these people but I don’t want them to be upset if I don’t go.”

sounds like a contradiction. But do not go for THEM. Go because you’d like to see the old gang again. What? You didn’t have an “old gang”? Then why bother?

I never go to mine. I didn’t like them when I went to the school. Why would I like them now?

Well if you did not graduate will you get an invite? If yes, go. If no, they probably won’t let you in.

I did not go to my reunion, I live across the country from where I graduated and the timing was wrong. I kinda miss seeing everyone. It would have be 20 years last summer (don’t tell). I t would have been nice to see SOME of the people I knew. If you are close, you might want to consider stopping by to see how people have changed!

Haven’t yet. Don’t ever expect to. Certainly don’t feel as if I missed something of import.

I avoided my reunions like the plague for years. Like Mr_M, I didn’t like those people then; and I couldn’t think of maybe two people in my whole school worth seeing again. I finally broke down last year and planned to go to my 30th. Then I received notice that not enough people expressed an interest, so they were cancelling the damn thing. Isn’t life ironic?

I didn’t go to my 10th last summer- my reasoning was that I kept in touch with most of the few people I care about. I regret it now. Really think about what your motivation is for not going (or for going). People change, and for me, I think it would have been a good chance to reconnect with people who knew me when.

Don’t go because you think they’d care. Go or don’t go because you think you will.

I didn’t graduate with my class, but still plan to go to my reunions i’m pretty positive i’ll be invited. I don’t see why people make such a huge deal about their reunions. I think it’d be fun to see where everyone is. And being single isn’t anything to be ashamed of.

Do you want to go? If you don’t, don’t go. Forget whether you’d be welcome or whether you’d be disappointing people. You say they aren’t people you were close to – if so, why worry about what they think?

I’ve skipped every high school reunion. Several people have tracked me down on Facebook, but that’s just validated my original decision.

Read your own question the answer is there.

I would only go if I really wanted to. I have never attended a high school reunion, and have not missed anything. I graduated with a class of 366 so it’s not like I stood out as anything special. I have been a great deal more successful than anyone ever expected me to be, so if I went, I would feel like I was exploiting my success somewhat. I think most of the people I went to high school with expected me to end up dead or in jail, and instead I work for the highest court in the state. I have no one I would really want to impress with that, and no one I wanted to see from those old days, so I have not bothered with any of the three reunions at my high school.