Is there a good way of denying someone on Facebook or is it okay to be a jerk?

I would ignore and decline the friend request. I guarantee she’s prepared for that to be one of the possibilities.

Yeah just better to decline and ingnore. You dont need to waste your time saying something to her that might start a fight.

Just take the high road and don’t respond.

Tough call. I see you don’t want to lead her on but you don’t want to be rude. If it was me I would by pass the friend request and just write back “I am fine”. Just to be polite.

I would not say anything more and hopefully she would get the hint. If she wants to talk more to you I would just come out and tell her that you don’t have time to converse with her. Good Luck.

what are you crazy? time to get some boooootayyy on the side! I would accept it and talk to her see what’s changed what’s goin on in her life, you know, that sort of thing

Ignore it, that’s a pretty clear message.

Or…, you could actually tell her how you feel about this. I then assume she hasn’t done something to you to not earn to be treated with some respect.

Pandora’s box was not meant to be opened… just like her friend request was not meant to be accepted. Let it go.. ignore and be at peace.
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Ignore. That’s not being a dick, it’s just moving on.

Ignore and decline. You stand to gain nothing by telling her to fuck off, other than escalating the issue and having it take up more of your time.

Did she do something to deserve you being a dick to her? I mean, did you catch her blowing your dad and now she has the nerve to say “hi?”

I think ignoring her would be the most action necessary.

I also received a Facebook message this morning from an ex of 22 years past.

She simply told me that she had owed me an apology for a very long time for how badly she had treated me. She wished me well and mentioned that she understood if I did not appreciate the intrusion. There was no friend request with it.

I wrote back that I had forgiven her many years ago, and I thanked her for giving me the opportunity to let her know.

Isn’t denial or ignoring private, anyway? I can delete my friends I added on a whim (because they clutter up my facebunch), and they aren’t notified.

I would just ignore it…no harm no foul.

I dated this girl about 8 years ago, she is a train wreck of a human and I left her for a reason. On top of my pure disinterest in her, her life, or anything else she wants to talk about I am now married and am not interested in Facebook for the purpose of hooking up with ex-girlfriends.

I guess I just felt sort of bad ignoring her since her life is such a mess, but like @Dr_C said, “Pandora’s box was not meant to be opened… just like her friend request was not meant to be accepted…”

Thanks everyone for your input!

It’s like answering the door or the phone. If you know who’s at the other end, and you don’t want to talk to them, then don’t pick up phone or answer the door. No rules say you have to let people intrude.

Haha. Just ignore it. Btw, facebook has totally copied twitter.

Back to the subject… I’d just ignore the friend request. It should let her know what’s really good.