I think my boyfriend takes me for granted.. what should I do?

You and he have different expectations about the frequency of communication. If he thinks it’s reasonable to call only when he has important news to share, and you think it’s reasonable to call at least daily, you’re going to annoy each other endlessly unless you get your expectations on the same page. This means you need to sit down and talk with him about how you feel like he’s taking you for granted because he doesn’t call you.

Also, it sounds like you’re defining your relationship in terms of what you do for him and what he gets out of the relationship. It sounds awfully one-sided to me. What are you getting out of it? Maybe it does make a lot of sense for you to put things on the back burner until you pass the bar exam—or maybe it might make sense for you to take a week off from the relationship and meditate on what you miss about it when it’s not there.

I think you need to ask yourself what you need from a relationship. As @cwilbur says, he may be fine with that amount of communication. You say that you love him, but he’s stressing you out, and it sounds like you’re starting to resent him for it. Unless you two can get on the same page about this, it’s going to be a constant problem. I also would suggest taking a step back, because you’re investing far too much of your time and your heart to be getting so little back. Good luck.

Let him drive for awhile and see where it goes.

my gf doesn’t call me either ;(

He probably feels like he doesn’t need to call you because you’ll be calling any minute, anyway. You go to his place a couple times a week, you do everything for him, so he doesn’t feel the need. It was likely relaxing to get away for two weeks and just focus on himself.

I’d focus on my bar exam and give him a break for a while. If he misses you, he’ll call to see what’s up.

Men are hunters. It’s no fun if the “prey” just sits there. Let him court you a bit.

You have taught him how to treat you. If you want to be treated differently then let him know and act accordingly. If he doesn’t want to hear you or refuses to change then dump him. Don’t waste your time on someone who does not share your values.

I would definitely allow things to cool for a bit, especially while you are so stressed about your own issues. Maybe he’ll see the light, but it’s equally likely that it won’t make a difference. See how reacts, and if you aren’t satisfied, cut him loose. No matter how much you love him, it isn’t worthwhile to stick around and hope that he’ll one day love you back just as much. Don’t get any more serious with him in hopes that one day this will magically happen.

Let him know you can’t be taken for granted. Make it LOUD and CLEAR that he is not the only fish in the sea. You can’t be soft about this. Strike a little fear and see if he straightens out. This will empower you as well as wake him up a little. You can love him, but it doesn’t mean he’s good for you. If he’s draining you and doesn’t seem to care, then he’s not loving you back even if he says he is. It could just be that he’s incapable of the love you want from a man in return. If this is the case (if he doesn’t recognize that how he’s making you feel) then you need to get rid of him because he’s just bringing you down.

#1 take care of yourself and pass the Barr.
Boyfriend stuff is less important.

or give me a call, I’ll help you study for the bar exam AND I’ll treat you right…wish my gf was more like you..

jajajaja well thank you qualitycontrol… so thank you all for your answers.. my priority right now should be my exam.. it’s the only thing I truly own ..and of course myself! Im gonna back off.. i shouldn’t be begging someone to love me back it’s ridiculous.

maybe you should stop being so selfish.

that was a joke ^

My only advice in this, is to NOT make a problem where there isn’t one. It may just be that he’s fallen into a comfort/habit zone where he figures you know his love is given (and vice-versa). That said, the trip without a call is a bit rough. Just tell him how you feel.

it’s understandable… I don’t think he does it on purpose but obviously none of us really know the guy.

In my experience, guys like things to be direct. Just ask him if he’s been ok lately. tell him you wish he’d be more engaging on his end, if you’re good at reading people it shouldn’t be hard to figure out his motivations…

I know how you feel, women like to be adored and be told we are precious etc. Theres nothing worst than being with someone that gives nothing back——all this is one sided. maybe you should back off big time and turn the tables on him, tell him your busy or go out on the nights u usually see him. ( really piss him off) if you get a reaction from him thats great he must have feelings if not forget him and find someone else. Bet he wont like the new you…but if things go to plan you know backing off works and maybe u should hold a few aces up your sleeve for the future.