@rooeytoo
I can usually tell within a few minutes of conversation whether I want to know someone better or not, too. And I can tell you what it’s based on: the level of intelligence they display, their sense of humor, how they speak to/about others, etc. Those are the things that give me a positive or negative gut feeling about someone. Not if they’re three inches shorter than me or if they’re forty pounds overweight or if there’s a gap in their teeth or if their nose is off center. I mean, a lot of the people I like best are downright ugly if I take a subjective look at them.
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But just out of curiosity, there was a question not long ago about what attracts you to a person and people were saying things like good teeth or nice butt and whatever.
It really depends on the person’s motives, I think. Speaking entirely for myself here (because I’ve been doing much more projecting and speaking for others and generalizing in my answers to this question than is usually my style) there’s a difference between what attracts me to a person and what attracts me to a body. If you ask me what attracts me to a person, I’ll tell you open-mindedness, a sense of humor, creativity, honesty and intelligence are the top five things. They’re the must-haves. I’m a sucker for brown eyes, but that doesn’t mean I won’t date someone who has blue eyes. I like people to have a few extra pounds, but that doesn’t mean I won’t date someone who’s skinny. I like people—guys especially—who are short, but that doesn’t mean I won’t date someone who’s tall. If I give answers like good teeth or a nice butt, I’m not describing what attracts me to a person. I’m describing what I like to look at. Human being are, in my opinion, interesting and pretty things to look at, and I very much like to. I’m especially fond of butts. If I’m just looking for someone to have a little fun with, a nice butt would be important. But if I’m looking for someone to date, someone with whom I might be with for a long time, possibly forever, a nice butt would just be an added bonus. Because no matter how nice that butt is now, in time it’s not gonna be so great. And then you’ll want someone whose personality makes you happy.
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…there are races I would not have a relationship with or date because the cultural differences are too overwhelming.
I think we’re just using different words here. In my last answer, I said I didn’t think not dating someone because of differences in ideologies was shallow because if you can’t agree on things like religion and politics and other culturally-influenced things, the relationship is probably pretty much doomed. I get the feeling that’s more what you’re talking about here, am I right? Like… let’s say you meet someone who is very deeply into Japanese culture and that just doesn’t gel with your lifestyle. It wouldn’t matter if they really had Japanese ancestry or if they were some other race and just loved and chose to follow the ways of that culture, would it? You’re not just saying, “Oh my God, slanty eyes, ew!” or something like that.
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Annnnnd… I hope this makes some sort of sense to someone other than me, because it’s almost 4 AM and I’ve been up since 6 AM yesterday…