If a guy is asking a girl out once and got answer "I will think about it", should he ask her again?

I’d give it a week or so and ask one more time, if she blows you off again…

Shut up and move on.

If you don’t think she is worth asking out twice then I’d move on, she obviously isn’t for you.

she’s a flirt. move on to the next one who will take you seriously.

Depends on when the sequence of events occurred. Also depends on how she said it.

I’m married to a girl that once told me that. That was eleven long years ago.

Dont give up! If you really like her i say go 110% or nothing. Dont leave shit to regret later.

You have asked 3 different versions of this question which tells me you want us to tell you to ask her out again. Ask her! If she doesn’t give you an answer this time, move on.

You best ask her again-she said she’d think about it…she’s probably thought about it and waiting on you to ask for her answer! Your best bet would be to quit asking Fluther and ask her!

Ask her out one last time. she never said “no”, so give her one last chance.

If she doesn’t give a definite answer, then she’s just a tart and you need to move on.

What have you got to lose? Ask her again there may be other things in her life that were pressing at the time. If she does not give you a positive answer soon she may have issues you do not want to deal with.

I first met my wife on a subway train. I told her she was very beautiful, and she said thank you, and looked away.
I saw her in a bar 2 years later. I didn’t realize it was her. I asked her if she was happy with her current bf, and she said she was (she obviously wasn’t).
I met her again at a friends house 6 months later, and she practically threw herself at me. We’ve been married 25 years in August.

wait a week. Then think of something fun to go out and ask her “hey do you want to go out to _____” if she’s into you she will say yes or shell suggest something on her own. If she said she think about it it usually means either she’s a tease or she’s not sure about you.

I would defiantly say ask her again but you need to give it a least a week. Also if she says yes and you start going out please be careful and dont rush the relationship, take it slow. If she is coming off a long term relationship you dont want to end up being the rebound guy. I had this happen to me I had just ended a long term relationship and starting dating another guy right away which then turned into an engagement. All of that was within 3 mths then within a mth later it was like a switch was flipped and I no longer had feelings for him. I’m not trying to scare you but just want to make sure you go into this with open eyes. Good Luck

nope there are lots of girls out there, you don’t have to waste your time waiting for one to “think about it” who is she, Eva Green????

previous question addressing this

We’ve addressed this, before. She’s probably not interested, she’s just wanting the attention. Move on, find someone worth your time.

I reckon you should maybe ask her to go somewhere specific, a more concrete time, date, place etc… rather than just asking her out.
If she blows you off she isn’t interested or too busy playing games (ask yourself do you want to be with someone like that?)

I certainly wouldn’t keep asking twice is enough!

Years ago, I was thinking about how to ask my (then) girlfriend to marry me. Not long later, on the drive to a friend’s wedding, I came up with the idea to send her out on the floor for the bouquet toss. If she caught it, I would go out to meet her and pop the question.

Well, she caught it. When I asked her, she said, “Hmmm…I’ll think about it…” I was crushed and spent the next couple days wondering how to proceed with life with a dead-end relationship to handle.

After a few days, she asked me if I was serious about what I’d asked her the other day. I told her not to worry about it. It turned out, she thought I’d had too much to drink that night (I had two glasses of wine), so she didn’t want to get all mixed up from a drunken binge. Anyway, she said, “Yes”, finally, and we were (are) married almost eleven years. (OK, so now we’re separated, but it’s still a relevant story.)

If you dont think she’s worth the wait then dont wait. If she is then broach the subject again but not bluntly like “well? will you go out with me or not??” Maybe try talking to her about it like “Hey, i was wondering if you’ve thought about what i asked you at all.” If she plays dumb and doesnt remember your question. “about us? going out?” something subtle and not too intense. some guys when in your situation kind of push it a little too hard. if she says that she will think about it again then move on. she’s just toying with you at that point and no one deserves that kind of treatment.

i’ve been dealing with something like this for several months now. the guy is aware that i want to date him and he seems to really like me. he tells me he likes me and he wouldnt spend as much time with me as he does if he didnt enjoy my company. he’s that kind of person that doesnt feel the need to pretend that he cares for someone if he doesnt. well i’ve talked to him about us and he’s said “i’m not sure right now” so i just keep waiting. everyone tells me i’m stupid but i’m in kind of in love with this guy so i cant help but keep waiting. i think he’s worth the wait and i know without a shadow of a doubt that he is. thats what you need to decide. is she REALLY worth the games and head f***?

hope that helps you at all. i’m sorry you’re having a hard time with it

no. cause apperantly if she says she’ll think about it, that means shes unsure, and if she thinks about it im sure she’ll get back at you, so dont look too THIRSTY by asking her again. if she doesnt get back at you she means NO and she’s just being nice and doesnt wanna hurt cha feelings.

good luck.

Absolutely NO.

If she really liked you, she would say staight up, Yes.

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I would say, forget about her. And, if she takes too much time to say yes. Your answer should be, “I’ll think about it.”

No.

Girls will usually say yes immediately, or offer an alternative on the spot;
i.e. “no, i’m really sorry. i’ve got something on tonight, are you free tomorrow night?”

“i’ll think about it” means “no.” and it’s a pretty arrogant as well. forget this girl.

If she was into you, you’d know it by now. Girls will do whatever they can to make sure you know she wants you. If you haven’t heard anything by now, I would stop holding your breath. You’re gonna turn blue in the face before she gives you the answer you want.

You sound like a decent guy – I’ll think about it doesn’t cut it.
If you can’t get her out of your head, ask her. If you can, move on.

Don’t ask her out again, ask her if she’s done thinking about it. If she’s still thinking about it, her answer is no…she’s just not got the backbone to tell you so….

If a girl says“I’ll think about it” I would not think about her again.unless their were other circumstances you did not know about.Including a death or health problems not aware of.Always give another chance to another human being.

Generally the rule is three strikes before your out, and this is what most dignified men use. No telling what she means by that. Maybe she is stalling to see options (in this case she’s not for you) or she could just be playing a little hard to get and wants to know if you like her enough to pursue her. I would use the three strikes rule and than move on.