I’ll try, @westy81585. Here’s a list for you to choose from. You can have all of them if you like.
1. Recognize that your perceptions may be off.
The way you feel right now is colored by fatigue, anxiety, and various kinds of stress. Your coping mechanisms are a bit overstrained. Under those conditions you can’t really take a realistic assessment of things, and your judgment won’t be the best. Yes, you do have to continue to function in those conditions, but you must also remember, just as you might do if you’d been smoking a little or drinking a little, that your perceptions are off. (By the way, you probably don’t want to complicate things right now by doing much of those.) Things will look different to you by and by.
2. Look back, look forward.
—How far have you come?
—What challenges have you faced?
—How much have you already done that you didn’t think you could do?
—How much stronger are you now than when you began?
and
—By the time you have your next birthday, won’t school be behind you?
—What are you looking forward to after school? Moving out, taking a trip, starting a new phase of your life, earning money, starting a career? What comes next? Forget the scary parts for now, what are the exciting parts?
3. Get rid of something.
Among all the pressures and stressors that we can’t avoid or relieve, there is usually something we are doing that we have laid on ourselves and we don’t really have to do. Is there something you can do to lighten what you’re carrying?
4. Take a hike.
Yes, get out and do something physical—right now, today, if you can: play a little frisbee, go for a run with the dog, take a bike ride with the girlfriend, take your mom for a canoe ride, launch a kite, or just jog a mile out and back. That’ll get things moving and help clear out some of the muck that’s bogging you down.
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It’s pretty hard to take care of a relationship through the intense phases of school. And relationship problems can make everything else seem worse—you can’t even focus your attention where you need to. Will it help to know that that is survivable and lots of people go through it? Hang in there, kiddo. It’ll be all right.