I’m not sure if Fluther is better than every website, but I do get what you’re saying. Personally I find different value in each website, and Fluther is the same. I would not say Fluther is better than every other website, how can it be when it doesn’t tell me the weather :) I will say that Fluther is so far one of the best social communicating sites I’ve encountered.
As for why it’s so awesome, well when you do something you love, everything tends to come from the heart. You strive to make it better on your own time, your idle thoughts go to it, etc. I would say that Bendrew do in fact love this site, thus their love comes through and is one aspect of why this site has the draw that it does.
And that extends to the Flutherites too. They make suggestions out of love and these are not dismissed out hand. People feel value in participating in this community. Not only do they have the option to submit suggestions, they act on this with no prompting (and with prompting ala round tables). I would say that because most people here are internally motivated to participate, the quality of the site is high.
No offense to them of course, but I doubt it’s because they are “more awesome than other website creators” – the technology used here is pretty much the same used elsewhere. And a third party came up with the branding, so consider that. As a web designer I can say that pretty much every dynamic website functions in a very similar way, albeit using different languages and tools/techniques.
It is true however that Bendrew regularly introduce new features, which is always fun and interesting and shows their dedication to improving the site. In another community I participate in, their website was improperly coded and had security holes, this has had many repercussions including it being spammed and shutting down for a few days this past year. As well, there seems to be a resistance against introducing new features such as autoupdate. However, each website has its own culture, and the addition or lack of features plays into this.
In my experience, websites succeed and are great if there is passion, motivation and dedication, and those qualities are shown by Bendrew and the members of the site. Oh, and they don’t have a committee or many levels to go through before making changes, unlike Facebook nowadays, that probably has an effect!