Ever have the feeling your not good enough for anyone or anything ?

No.

I think you need to boost your self-esteem a bit. Where are your friends? Why are you even here on a website asking strangers for our opinion? Go out and meet people :)

Sometimes but I also get the feeling nobodys ever going to be good enough for me, so it balances out.
I have no advice really but to tell you are of worth and whoever made you feel this way wasn’t good enough for you.

My mother in law and my sil make me feel this way all the time. I’ve been married for 24 years and dealing with this and it has effected not only my marriage but my children. I decided they no longer had the power to make me feel this way and I took the control back. I no longer have anything to do with them and haven’t even seen them and my life and how I feel about myself is so much better.

I agree with Jack, get out and meet people. Learn something new.

I felt this way for most of my life because of abuse that started when I was very young. Through a lot of hard work and life experience, I’ve learned that I’m as good as anybody else, and just as worthy of love and happiness.

But I still have times, such as when I’m in a relationship and things seem almost ‘too good’ or after a relationship falls apart, and I start telling myself those negative things.

To get through those times, I use my logic, because I know those negative things aren’t true. I also take time to remind myself of times when I felt more confident and loveable, and I listen to music that helps me and write in my journal.

It also helps to spend time with those who do accept me as I am: my oldest friends, and my pets.

Getting outdoors and walking, listening to the birds and the leaves rustling in the breeze, or the ocean waves, or lake or streams rippling… being in nature seems to help me put things in perspective.

Hang in there!

Think positive thoughts, cuddly bears and rainbows.

The problem is not with our thoughts; it’s with how much credence we give our thoughts. When I’m having the thought, “I’m not good enough,” I treat it like all my other thoughts. “Hey, thanks for making that opinion known!” (Except I might say it with a little snark, and emphasis on the word ‘that’, lol) Then I go about my business. People so often believe that our thoughts make things so, when in fact they are just stuff floating through our head, like clouds on a summer day. Follow your values (dreams) in spite of your thoughts, not because of them.

Don’t listen to the voices in your head, unless they are telling you NOT to step off the curb against the DON’T WALK sign. Our fears and insecurities can make us believe shit that isn’t true. Try listing your positive attributes on a sheet of paper and keep it handy. If you can’t think of any, ask someone you know to help. It’ll surprise you what happens when you give your negative thoughts a kick to the curb.

It’s all just a matter of perspective sometimes.

I see you live in New Jersey. There are lots of things to do there, so get out and start doing them. You can meet new people that can add to your life. I also see that hair interests you. Maybe go to school to be a hairdresser. You can’t meet a more fun loving wackier crowd of people. More over, try to learn to love yourself for who you are.

That would also be called depression. Meds can help.

Better living through chemistry!

Not good enough for anyone or anything ? You are the most important person in the world.
Do not forget that. Putting to the side that you might have some chemical imbalance.
We do get down on ourselves from time to time. That is ok. Don’t let your desire to have it NOW and what you want to be NOW get to you.
You come into this world alone and you will leave it alone. Do what is best for you, and always be proud of YOUR accomplishments and NEVER compare them to others. We all follow the beat of a different drum. This will show, people will see this.
Love yourself! You are going to have an exciting life ahead of you. And, you have plenty of time to get there. So chill! :-)

Its so easy for life to make us “feel” all kinds of things…feelings come from thoughts…thoughts come from beliefs which are based on perspectives, background, prior “programming” from youth etc. Our reality is based on our perspective; ever see two people in same circumstance, one thankful, the other complaining? Quick answer: rethink your perspective/reality…here’s the truth, every cell in your body is special, unique, you have unlimited potential! Your heart pumps blood through 60,000km of pathways in your body every 2 mins…if your lucky your healthy, your in complete control of your future…how you think, where you go and what you do…let go of previous expectations in terms of relationships and learn to recognize and feel how unique and great you are natively…and then feel happier, lighter and inspired to go find something interesting to add to your life or someone else’s life. :)

the only times in my life that i’ve felt this way were times when my mental system wasn’t ‘right’ and i needed medication

Yes, all the time. It’s because of my mother and how she treated me growing up. I’m starting to get better, but I still believe that I’m not good enough for certain people.

I feel that way now and have for quite some time.

You only need to be good enough for you.

remember, don’t compare yourself to other people, you have no idea how fucked up they really are.

If it’s a rough patch, you could tell yourself that “this, too, shall pass.” Hang in there until things start going your way again.

I find that things seem to go in waves. I’ll have some good times, and then I get too cocky and I piss some people off, and things start to sour, and just when I think it is getting bad enough to worry, they start going better again. Most of my life has followed this cycle, and in general, I’ve been very fortunate.

Once, though, things started going south and there was no reason for this to be happening, and nothing I seemed to be able to do about it. In that case, drugs helped. Legal, prescribed ones, I mean.

Yes, all the time. Due to my short height, my skin color, my looks (I’m unattractive), my weight/body, etc.