In my life, I’ve seen this issue go around and around. In the seventies, when women were fighting hard to get equal pay for equal work, and to get access to jobs they could do but were being kept out of, and to stop being pigeonholed in “women’s” work, the notion that gender differences were cultural was very popular.
Many of my friends believed that if they brought up their boys and girls the same, and lived in female communes, and didn’t let them watch TV or get any exposure to outside culture, the children would grow up the same, without gender differences. So they all went out and tried this. Then the stories started coming back about how, no matter how hard they tried, it didn’t work. Boys and girls behaved differently and learned differntly and had different interests, on average.
Let me say a little about my “on average” qualifier. Statisticians always say this because we all know that individual behavior varies much more than average behavior. On average, you can make a generalization, and people often call this a stereotype. We all agree, though, that just because there is an average difference between all males and all females, doesn’t mean that indivuals of each gender might act more like the other gender than their cohort.
So back to my story. I had children very late in life compared to most (again, another average). So I knew the results of all the feminist experiments by the time I was able to have children. Everyone said, over and over, that boys are different from girls, and it has nothing to do with culture. Various studies, such as the ones Nikipedia cited, began to come out showing differences in brains that affect ways of thinking. Other studies focused on other differences, and all these differences were based on physical characteristics, not cultural.
A side note, again. Cultural anthropologists usually use qualitative methods. They observe behavior. They rarely, if ever, count things. This means they don’t know how prevalent various types of behavior they see are. This biases them to think the world at large is how they see it in small situations. Since they tend not to be educated in statistics, they often don’t understand how their generalizations can’t be supported. Even in their departments, cultural anthropologists and physical anthropoligists tend not to understand each other.
Anyway, I’ve watched my own children, a boy and a girl, grow, and I’ve been very supportive of my son being open to all things, as well as my daughter. At first, he was into dolls and wearing pink when his sister treated him like a doll and dressed him up. He thought it was funny. As he grew, he still kept to this, even in school, but gradually he stopped being interested in “girl” things, and started just being more physically active, climbing trees, riding bikes, etc.
My daughter has always been “girly” and it kills me. I tried really hard to get her interested in bicycle riding, and she was afraid to fall, and wouldn’t learn. I’ve heard from coaches of women’s lacrosse that girls have to be taught how to be aggressive and uncaring on the field. If someone gets hurt, their tendency is to slow down and cluster around the hurt person when they can’t afford to do that, or they’ll get scored against. She has various exercises to teach girls how to think differently and how to ignore their instincts. This is a woman who is very much in favor of strong women, and women in sports, and she’s just being realistic about what she’s up against.
So, things are coming back around, I think, to the realization that boys and girls are different, and it’s physiological, not cultural, and it affects how they think and how they learn. One example is that while both boys and girls get ADD, and even if ADD is overdiagnosed, boys represent, by far, the majority of ADD cases—I believe it’s around 90%.
I have a friend whose business is selling software that allows ADD kids to learn visually, by supporting the visualization of concepts, instead of writing them down. Apparantly this helps a lot.
I’ll look for sources, but I believe that boys are not as good as girls at math and writing and reading. Girls already outnumber boys in college and in the white collar work force, and the difference is only going to increase. The glass ceiling hasn’t broken quite yet, but it’ll crack soon. It has to. There aren’t going to be enough men to take these leadership positions, ever if women weren’t better.
Schools are not oriented towards girls, and the pendulum has swung too far, because now boys are being neglected and, dare I say it, discriminated against. Of course the discrimination is generally not recognized, just as discrimination against women wasn’t recognized in the fifties and sixties. I say this as a feminist—a person who believes in equality.
However, since I believe in equality, I don’t want to see things go the other way. Society needs boys as much as it needs girls, and we can’t afford to neglect male talents if we are to solve so many of the huge problems humanity faces.
When I get a chance, I’ll do some research to back these points up. Or maybe someone else will help. I just want to say there is good reason for concern, and, in the education policy think tanks, and amongst other academics, there is already a significant amount of recognition of this issue. I think we need to keep our eyes open, and be careful about our stereotypes. The old ones may be out of date, and if we don’t figure it out, there will be serious problems.