@DominicX
I generally agree with you.
“I believe that it serves a purpose for it’s time and then will not be needed anymore.”
And with this part in particular.
By the way, is that you, Lelac?
@tinyfaery
Only one of the definitions on there has to do with superiority, you say? I think I can see another one or two.
– a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc.
– the state or feeling of being proud.
– pleasure or satisfaction taken in something done by or belonging to oneself or believed to reflect credit upon oneself: civic pride.
– something that causes a person or persons to be proud: His art collection was the pride of the family.
– Pleasure or satisfaction taken in an achievement, possession, or association: parental pride.
– Arrogant or disdainful conduct or treatment; haughtiness.
– An excessively high opinion of oneself; conceit.
– The quality or state of being proud; inordinate self-esteem; an unreasonable conceit of one’s own superiority in talents, beauty, wealth, rank, etc., which manifests itself in lofty airs, distance, reserve, and often in contempt of others.
– A sense of one’s own worth, and abhorrence of what is beneath or unworthy of one; lofty self-respect; noble self-esteem; elevation of character; dignified bearing; proud delight;—in a good sense.
– Proud or disdainful behavior or treatment; insolence or arrogance of demeanor; haughty bearing and conduct; insolent exultation; disdain.
– That of which one is proud; that which excites boasting or self-gratulation; the occasion or ground of self-esteem, or of arrogant and presumptuous confidence, as beauty, ornament, noble character, children, etc.
– Show; ostentation; glory.
Or eleven.
Much repetition, but then this is Dictionary.com. And I wouldn’t be particularly inclined to give much credibility to the definitions of someone who thinks “one” means the same as “twelve”.
And then there’s proud :
– feeling pleasure or satisfaction over something regarded as highly honorable or creditable to oneself (often fol. by of, an infinitive, or a clause).
– having, proceeding from, or showing a high opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, or superiority.
– highly honorable or creditable
– of lofty dignity or distinction
– And I’m not going to copy-paste all the other entries. I should hope my point is made.
Every single dictionary entry on there for either word has a number of definitions that imply one feels some trait makes them better those who lack it. The usage I warn for is much more represented than the other one, in fact. It’s not something I made up.
There’s even a well represented definition that describes it as being arrogantly and unduly self-satisfied. I wasn’t even talking about this usage. (Because it’s obvious enough that the gay community wouldn’t mean to describe itself as arrogant and haughty.)
Any usage that portrays the object of pride as a good thing, rather than an okay thing one shouldn’t be ashamed of, supports my objection. And that’s nearly each of them.
(Furthermore, Wiktionary doesn’t even include any definition concerned with the egalitarian self-esteem that I do support.)
@tinyfaery, @DominicX
All right, so the word also has a sense that is harmonious with what I do support. The problem is that I do not think this is the dominant sense of this word.
I think this usage would be much better described by a term along the lines of “gay self-respect”. Nobody is ever going to misinterpret that.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir
An effect of a successful integration would be to make the society less heteronormative, of course.
And what else would you prefer to do? Gather in a shunned and secluded subculture?
Here’s another comparison. I wouldn’t dream of being proud to be an atheist, no matter how much my well supported world view is discriminated against. It’s not the sort of thing that it would make sense to be proud of. It’s not an achievement to adopt a world view with no gods in it.
(Even though I do wear a scarlet A.)