Has my friend lost control of his weed habits?

Dude, just be honest. Go tell your friend you’re worried about his recent drastic change in behaviour. None of the drinking vs smoking stats matter here, what matters is that you as a friend have observed a rapid change and it caused you to be concerned. I believe that every friend has the right to speak their honest mind once, after then you have said your bit and you can’t do anything else beyond let your friend live their own life and learn the consequences of their choices and actions. After all, change must come from within. Whether he chooses to return to a life of education is his choice to make.

Then again, maybe he’s just someone who is willing to be stoned. I’m not “stoned all the time” but I do smoke very regularly, and I’m completely successful. Weed doesn’t necessarily exclude someone from being dedicated. Nor is weed necessarily the reason he may or may not become a psychiatrist. It becomes easy to blame one thing for people changing when in reality people change naturally over time, it’s inevitable.

Even if you get shut down, it wouldn’t hurt to talk to him about how you feel – it may give him pause, even if he doesn’t admit it.

I wouldn’t bring this up to his family just yet. He’s an adult now, and he’ll make his own decisions whether they know about it or not – and it could potentially cost you your friendship.

That said, maybe this isn’t as serious as you believe it is. I know some highly productive stoners (although I am not a productive stoner, and can only smoke when I have nothing at all to accomplish.)

Just out of curiosity- how well did he do on his finals?

The reason I ask is that doing poorly in conjunction with intervention could be a catalyst for change.

I know it doesn’t have to matter that he smokes, he’s been doing it for years and he’s been doing well. He’s got good grades, had a great relationship with his friends and overall had a great life, yet he smoked a few times a week. That’s totally okay with me, I’m not against weed, and i have no issues with him or anyone else getting stoned, but it has to be at the right times, not in the middle of a goddamned exam! I mean, this was a home exam, so it was literary during the exam.

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I probably won’t bring it up to his parents unless it eventually gets really bad. Like if he get’s really fucked,, in trouble etc.

Yeah, i know it might not be as serious as i think it is, but I’m worried that it might be. It’s just not the right way to turn now, in the beginning of the vacation. I really doubt think he’ll cut down on the wee in the summer…

@Dog It went ok, He got a 4. (That’s a 4 out of 6 which i guess should equal an C) He wasn’t stoned during the presentation, so i guess that saved him, but still it’s just the fact that during those two days that is pretty important, he sat with his friends and got stoned while the rest sat at home producing. I saw his product, and I’ve seen him do a lot better…

Hahahaha that’s funny as he’ll there is nothing wrong with your freind. It’s good you care about this person, but I wouldn’t worry to much about that these days there is a lot of really bad things you can get into that could mess a person up. If your freind is smoking alot more then there could be a reason that you are in aware of. Some people use harm reduction and self Medicate themselves. This is a good thing because the user has somthing to take the edge of all the stress and finantual problems

@Gfly Well, there’s a time and place for everything…

Some people can handle weed, some can’t. to be honest just tell him how you feel and let it be that, because there’s nothing else you can really do. He’ll only stop if HE wants to really.

I know they say you can’t get addicted to weed, but i think you can. Its not physically like alcohol, but its mental.I have a good friend who smokes because he says it calms him down and relaxs him so he doesn’t stress too much. In reality, he can change his routine or something to make him stress less…or go for a jog or something. But when people get to this point, they THINK they need weed to function. Therefore, it IS a mental addiction. I sort of think it can be physical too. Are you not chasing the feeling you got the last time you were high? I don’t know, but you should definitely talk to him about how you feel. A friend’s concern can usually straighten anyone up.

i know alot of people that smoke before they do anything, it’s a hell of alot better than eating a bunch of xanex that a doctor would prescribe for anxiety. Your friend is good to go.