Does she like me?
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joooon (
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June 20th, 2009
There’s this girl in my class, we have been in the same class for 4–5 months, but about 2 weeks ago she started coming over to me a lot and talking to me, I have work so I normally ignore her, I did move away because she would talk. Now she also gets me to do silly tasks like copy files, she can do it herself why does she need me? I did ask her and she said I like talking to you. She also talks about me to her friends and calls me cute.
The thing is I don’t really talk to her I’m quite shy.
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She likes you, almost certainly, unless she is trying to make a fool out of you or her friends challenged her to try to interest someone so unforthcoming that she really had no other interest in. Why does it matter to you—would you like it if someone liked you?
Awww you moved away from her? :(
I think she likes you. Try talking to her if you are shy. I am shy too and people still talk to me. Only do that if you want to though. Awww cute :P
Hmmmm everything you said sounds familiar hmm…. I wonder, Kevin is that you? : )
Stop beeing a pussy and talk to her, unless u prefer boys? I’d say she likes you, unless she is super hot and you are the class nerd, which then no…she is takin the piss outta you!
@Walshy You suck at answering questions sincerely, but I like what you said. Hahahahah.
Anyways, Im pretty sure she has a thing for you. Quit the doucheness and be a man.
@kerryyylynn
“doucheness”? I’m not trying anything, I don’t know what to say to her.
Well don’t be an ass to her
If you don’t mind… How old are you? That would totally change my answer
Whoa dude!!!
You are grown up!
And you still have this problem?!
Sorry I didn’t mean to sound rude
@joooon Okay dude, so youre eighteen years old, you cant even tell if she likes you, and you dont know how to talk to girls. Pretty much sums it up yeah? All you need to do is ask, seriously. Tell her that a little birdy told you shes into you, and that you definately wouldnt mind getting to know her some more. BAM, done.
@kerryyylynn
Thanks
I still personally don’t think she likes me, I have been truthful and honest in what I’ve said in this thread and people in real life have said the same as you lot. I just don’t understand why she would like me.
@joooon, she sees the nice guy. You could just be nice to her, without even getting into a whole conversation about whether or not she likes you.
If she wants to talk, factor in a few minutes into your time to talk with her. It doesn’t sound like she has ulterior motives. There are lots of women who find shy guys appealing.
OK I’m going to be extremely hypocritical here because I’m 19 years old and still way to shy, but… “I just don’t understand why she would like me” is completely the wrong way to think. And even if she indeed doesn’t like you, talking doesn’t do harm. So yeah, I would also think this way and even know it’s the wrong way to think, but I thought I’d emphasize it anyway.
Start with this:
Do you would you like to talk to her?
Do you think she might be interesting?
If the answer those questions are yes, then you have a different question that needs to be asked of Fluther. How do I talk to a girl when I’m painfully shy and don’t want to appear rude?
Yes, she definitely likes you. Do you like her?
If there’s no chance that you would like to make friends (but maybe not lovers) with her, then just drop it until you are ready to have a female friend. but if you think that you are ready to talk with a female deeply and honestly, then tell her that you don’t know whether you have romantic feelings for her, but you would like to try starting out by at least being friends.
You know, @joooon, there is at least a very small chance that you might be an interesting and likable person. Even by girls. I know you’ve never thought of yourself this way, but you know, it might have happened while you weren’t paying attention. In any case, it can’t hurt to talk to her a little more responsively, and see how things go. Give yourself permission to come out of your shell a little. It’s just conversation, ok?
Maybe later, if you get more comfortable, you might ask if she wants to do something outside of school. Coffee, a walk, go look at the statues in a park, or see some exhibit at a local museum, ice cream. I don’t know. You don’t have to ask like it’s a date or anything. Just doing something together. No pressure. Not on you or her. See what happens. Maybe you’ll feel a little more confident, and if you do like her, you might consider something a little more interesting, like a movie or hanging out at nighttime or something.
@daloon
Maybe, I still haven’t talked to her since I wrote this question, I don’t know what to talk about or anything, maybe it’s best I give up for now.
@joooon Forgive me if i’m treading on ground I shouldn’t be my friend but it seems to me there is no “for now” but simply “now”. If you do not act (assuming you wish to) on this matter soon then any feelings she may have towards you will have waned.
@joooon
So you still avoid her? Or what?
How old is she? If she talks about you alot might mean she’s interested. duh
So your still shy about it
@joooon
Wait, wait:
“I just don’t understand why she would like me.”
Thats is silly!!!
That you doubt someone likes you
@Tink1113
Not anyone but her. I don’t talk to her how does she know what I’m really like, we have only talked to each other a few times and I didn’t feel any connection.
@Tink1113
I don’t really know her so I don’t really know.
Do you think she is pretty atleast?
Would you want to know her?
Have you ever had a gf before?
you don’t have to answer that if you don’t want to
All you have to do is ask some of the questions you would like to ask in order to get to know her. Either she will answer them, or she won’t. Then you’ll start to know two things. You’ll know if she cares to answer your questions, and you’ll start to find out if you like her.
If you aren’t interested in her, then why did you bother to ask this question? Was it idle intellectual curiousity? Were you just, scientifically, trying to understand female behavior better? It’s fine if that’s the case, but if that’s the case, it usually helps you get better answers if you state that in the question.
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