@BBSDTfamily – you asked if anyone thought it was a really bad decision, and you can read this same opinion in the link I posted, but just to put it down here, I do, for a couple reasons.
I understand that sometimes there’s a cultural thing…it’s what you do. That however is not American culture. If you have to question whether or not to do it, then it’s probably not a cultural thing for you…it’s probably an ornamental thing for you.
Now first off, I don’t like the idea of doing something to anyone for purely ornamental reasons without their consent, and a baby can not consent. I get the idea that they won’t remember the pain (though if it might hurt or even scare the baby, then you’re still subjecting her to trauma you really don’t need to subject her to…whether it meets the definition of “pain” or not). To @YARNLADY, I would say that I’d be surprised if there was no pain whatsoever, I mean you are putting a hole through a fatty part of your flesh…there HAS to be some pain involved, I’d submit you have a high pain threshhold/tolerance…and that may not be so for a baby. And even if there is a way to do it where 100% of the time it wouldn’t hurt anyone, how are you to know you get the person who is capable of doing it that way? But for me, it’s less about the momentary pain and more about the personal decision. I think a child should be able to express a desire for this before they do it, it’s the child’s choice, not mine. What if the child grows up and adopts a belief system where they believe self mutilation is a one way ticket to hell? There’s probably a loophole (with superstition religion there always is), but she may still resent you for doing that.
I mean, if a five year old girl asks and REALLY wants to do it and REALLY understands, via talking to her mother and other adults who have done it, how much (if any) pain/discomfort she can expect, etc., then yeah, fine, even though the girl may not have arrived at her spiritual understanding of the world, at least it’s her decision and she has no one to blame for herself for whatever consequences she might encounter. At five at least you can use negative consequences for a learning tool, to help her understand that every decision she makes comes with potential consequences, not just the rewards she sees on the surface. So personal choice is item #1 for me why unless I had a cultural more to uphold, I would not do it.
But more importantly, as @Jack79 alluded to, earrings in our culture are basically ornamentation to make a woman seem more feminine and sexually alluring to men. Just like makeup, high cut skirts and low cut tops. I don’t want to seem a prude, I like to look at a tight young thang as much as the next guy, but I’m not into the JonBenet look. I think the whole Bratz culture (or as I like to call them, Horz) is really, really a sickening thing. I don’t think girls who don’t even know what sex is should be made up to look like sexual objects. And I think earrings are in a way a premature sexualization when placed on a young girl…the idea of putting them on a baby makes me want to vomit. Even in the case of a five year old, to be honest I might have a slight problem and want to have some veto power over what types of earrings she could wear…simple studs are good enough. It’s certainly a matter of degree, but I just don’t think we should make little girls look like little women, they’re only kids for a few years, I see no need to start sexualizing babies.