Would you let your crush live with you? (read details)
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July 18th, 2009
My friend’s 17 and still lives with her parents and a sister of 15. She lives 5 hours from where I live and so did her crush(17). When she first started talking to him, it was just small talk like “hi and bye,” and then she moved to Phoenix (the city where she’s currently living). They started texting and she suddenly eventually felt “love for him” but didn’t quite know him much…When they came to visit during the summer, her sister was feeling love for him, too. Well, this guy likes younger girls and the youngest sister has the looks that he likes (rockerish). But he likes my friend’s(17) personality much more! HE just wants to get laid! He fell in “love” with both…I think that’s BS, though. some problems occured with both sisters. During the week before they went back home, this guy wanted to live with them to keep his mind straight to see which “girl” would best fit him. My friends(the two sisters) didn’t mind and so they let him move with them. By the time he went over there, my friends’ step-dad really liked this guy and so did their mom, so they let him move with them. Right now he wants to ask another girl out not the two sisters, though. My friend(17) still loves him, while the other sister(15) is annoyed by him.
Should he move back?
What would you do in this situation?
and Is he taking advantage of both sisters?
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Wait… what? How the hell did this situation even happen? This guy should be thrown out on his ass, no question.
I’ll try and ignore the ages for now.
Yes, he does seem to be taking advantage of the situation…who wouldn’t?
I think your friend is only in for a heartache by the sound of it, and the other sister isn’t going to be too happy either. This can only cause problems.
This all sounds like a bad Hilary Duff movie (wait, aren’t they all bad?).
My head hurts.
I see several ass kickings in that boy’s future ;p
Get this…he doesn’t have the looks!
He looks like a chupacabra!
So your friends parents let him live with them?
@Tink1113 yes! ugh. I tried talking my friend into not letting him, but she’s the bad stubborn kind…
:(
The worst part was that this guy told the sister 15) that I didn’t like her…which is not true… and he told me that she didn’t like me..also not true! and created problems between both of us…which was hard because all of us have the same friends! But we(sister15 and I) managed to keep our friendship close by talking it out! We found out he’s very untrustworthy!
Do the parents know about that?
I still think he should get kicked out
No, they still don’t know about the sister problems…
when they came to visit…it was just them two(the 2 sisters)!
strikeout I just figured out how to do strike out
Are the parents out of their minds?! How could these people let a young man who has the hots for both of these underage girls and is trying to make time with yet another girl stay in their house? Dude has no reason whatsoever to be in this home and someone needs to kick him out ASAP!
The parents need to be told about the sister problems and the problems this guy has tried to create between friends, and then they need to send him back to his own parents.
So in answer to your questions:
Should he move back? Absolutely. Shouldn’t he still be in school? Where are his parents in all of this?
What would you do in this situation? As a parent I would send him back to his parents. He sounds like a charming manipulator, which is one of the hallmarks of a sociopath, and he needs to be out of the girls’ house. If I were a friend of the family I would tell my own parents so that they could tell your friends’ parents what this guy seems to be up to.
Is he taking advantage of both sisters? Absolutely, and of their parents as well.
@Darwin his dad doesn’t really care about him….they fight almost everytime…
that’s probably one of the reasons why he moved: he couldn’t find comfort
I keep on telling my friend to listen to me! but she ignores me…. and yet my other friends agree that he should move back!
and I agree with you..I’m going to tell my parents to talk to their mom…
thank-you :)
I would suspect that if his dad is fighting with him so much that the dad does actually care about his son. However, many boys who do not want to do what their parents ask of them will claim their parents don’t care about them rather than admit that they are going against their parents’ goals of helping them mature safely and well.
If he is really suffering abuse at the hands of his father, then at 17 he can become emancipated, or simply tell a school counselor or a trusted adult, who can then refer him to a group home.
obviously her doesnt know what he wants and he’s confused. he doesnt care about any of you guys feelings. make him move out and leave him alone for good.
All I can really say at this point is ‘live and learn’. Especially if you’ve tried to talk to them about it. They’re going to do what they want anyway (obviously)!
I dont think he should stay..
I swear this scenario reminds me of a Jerry Springer episode I once saw. Many of them actually.
I understand that this comment wasn’t helpful but it was necessary in a useless kind of way.
Tell the girls to open their eyes, and throw the guy out on the street.
he sounds like a jerk, the girls sound pretty gullible, and the parents sound absolutely ridiculous. the whole situation sounds like a worse-than-usual episode of maury or jerry.
i would absolutely not involve myself in a situation like that, nor would my mother ever allow that.
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