What's the best way to break up with a clingy girlfriend?

Directly and gently, but firmly. Use plain language so there is no mixed message. Here is an example, “GF (insert her name), I am not going to see you anymore. I liked you, but your insecurity and constant calling killed any feeling that I had.”

First, make sure there are no sharp or heavy blunt objects around. Then just explain to her what you explained to us. That or just make up some lie like “not ready for commitment” or one of those cliche lines.

i think the best way ultimately would be to be very stern with your reasons why you are breaking up. Be gentle, as she is attached to you for whatever reason. I would say just gently but firmly tell her it is not working out for you, you need space.

I had this same situation before and i basically started out by saying i needed space. She was still clingly and upset that i needed space but, i got space because when someone likes you they should respect you. By saying you need space it implies something which is obvious, in that maybe it’s too much for you right now. Then after you have your space tell her you need to talk and tell her how you feel.

it’ll be easier for her to handle and also easier for you because sometimes that extra space you get from a clingy girlfriend will talk a little for you to them and they might even ask a friend why and they’ll let them know…then you can say “hey i don’t think it’s working out”. itll save you that clingy anxiety that she will have if you try to just drop and leave and will most likely stir up an arguement with things that you and her both don’t mean to say…

I disagree with @1000oceans. That sounds to me like stringing her along, not breaking up with her.

I suggest being truthful about it: Just tell her why you’re ending the relationship. It may hurt, but being honest and straightforward will save her a lot of heartache – even if it isn’t so easy on you.

Just be honest and if she asks why, tell her all the reasons you’ve just mentioned.

Gently but firmly. In person is best, but not in front of any of her/your friends (unless you feel scared for your safety).

If I were in your situation, I would take her aside and say, ”[Name], I am ending our relationship. Your clingy behaviour and constant phone calls drive me insane. Do not contact me again.” Then I would walk away without letting her respond, because I had already determined the relationship was over and thus nothing she could say would fix that. This would probably ruin any future friendship we could have had, but I don’t think I would want to have a friendship with her anyway.

Easy, tell her that friendship is important to you, wether it’s boys or girls… If she can’t moderate her “clinginess” then you’ll never be happy… Sometimes it sucks to hurt someone you care about, but if you are not happy in that relationship, you should consider your well being before anything else before it gets more serious.

Good luck buddy!

Thanks, I think I’m just going to tell her like it is. I’ll let you guys know how it goes.

Good luck!

Good luck, and like I said, beware the sharp and small, heavy, blunt objects!

Tell her you have herpes, that’ll get rid of anybody.

Buy a pair of sexy underware and leave it at your place for her to find…
Just Kidding. :-)

I think you should be really respectful, tell her it’s not working out for you (“We’re just not a good fit. I really need someone who’s more independent”) and tell her exactly why. You also need to be clear that she can’t talk her way out of the breakup either.

If you guys are still young, it may help her to understand how her behavior is perceived by someone she’s in a relationship with, so that she can learn from it and prevent it in the future. Sometimes when people are in their first relationships, they have no idea how to handle emotional intimacy or insecurity at all, and this could be a turning point for her.

First, pry her clinging arms off and explain to her your can’t breathe with her suffocating you in that manner.

A little oil to help separate you. Or maybe some peanut butter. That’s supposed to help get gum out of hair, it may help in this situation.

distance and silence