Let's cut to the chase...those of you who have sex with men, what's you're preferred penis size?

My preference is for the man, and I’ll take whatever size penis comes with him.

It depends on the “size” of the woman, so that’s why men get conflicting answers. There really isn’t a universal “best size”. Some people fit together better than others. As for my preference, a little too private for Fluther…. some of these people know who I am!

Oh and @Jeruba I love your answer, so right.

I’ve only had one size, but I’m sure width matters much more than length.

Short-hand version of the question for any of you who just skipped down this far: Is my dick is big enough for you?

@Facade Amen to that… why is it that so many men worry about length instead of girth?

Inches long or around doesn’t matter to me. I just like it big enough to do a good job pushing deep that I can feel it. :-)

@BBSDTfamily Maybe they like having their cervix beat up lol not that I blame them

” men are by definition insecure about the size of their penises.”

Not insecure, I don’ t give it much thought. Seems the woman are usually the curious ones.
I am just right. ;-) I see my “boy” as average. I am always surprised that women either find it just right or bigger then usual.
From my point of view, listining to women, I get the impression that there are more men with tiny weenies then there are of average to above.

Aw c’mon people, you can do better than this.

@Facade LOL you are cracking me up…. I don’t blame them either

@robmandu – since I KNOW you’re intelligent enough to realize that your “shorthand” versions of my questions don’t even begin to ask the same questions I actually did ask, I’ll dismiss your comment as a failed attempt at humor.

@ALL – in case I WASN’T clear, I KNOW that whatever your lover has is fine, and it’s not “about” that. I’m looking for your preference. It’s not as though I’d turn down a dish of cherry nut ice cream if my favorite flavor was chocolate…but I’m just looking for what you like the “most”.

@dalepetrie what do you want from us? Pictures of “this is too big…this is to small”?

@jbfletcherfan That’s what I’m saying!

Hold on, let me go get my digital camera real quick…

Well that lets ME out! I told what I like.

I have to be able to feel it. I doubt anyone has measured their lover’s penis, so giving you an actual length might be tough. One of my toys is 10 inches and pretty wide. I prefer something a bit smaller for sex. As was mentioned above, width is more important.

To gain entrance to this ride, you must be shorter than seven inches, and I have to be able to touch thumb to first finger around it. (And I have small hands.) This is ideal. [Picture is of a personal device, not an actual penis.]

here is what I am happy with.
I am happy w/5” and need some girth, nothing too thin, I like a good girth too, something I can squeeze and will send waves of pleasure is nice:)
I have seen 8” and thought that was huge, but thought I might be willing to try to climb on to it (I was VERY curious and titillated) not sure if I would be willing to try anything bigger than 8”
anything smaller than 5” the guy better be willing to add toys to the mix or it won’t last.

I don’t care about flacid, just the end result.

I used to say I didn’t care about size until I had sex with a man who was well endowed (probably around 8½ inches and with a good girth also). And ever since I can’t seem to get used to anything smaller. It seemed to just “hit” the right spots during sex. I definitely think girth matters a lot. Long and skinny doesn’t do it for me.

@ItalianPrincess1217 This is true. No one likes a pencil dick!

Ideal = 7” length x 5” around
Pushing limits of comfort = 8” length x 6–7” around

@hungryhungryhortence You’ve used a tape measure? LOL

Editing my answer

I think anything above 6 inches would be pleasurable given the right circumstances and the right orifice :)
ain’t nothin wrong with a little bit of pain

@jbfletcherfan: yes I have ;p Also, there are nifty make-em-yourself-at-home kits for replicas of your favorite tinkers.

You see, THAT’S what I’m talking about…good, honest answers about preference. I was starting to worry that I could get answers about why people liked to use butt plugs and lick out their lovers’ chocolate starfish, but no one could tell me “six inches is about right”. I knew y’all would come through for me.

well l have been told a lie then because I was told this:

I——————————————————————————————————————————————I

Was 11 inches.

I guess I am way under “staffed”

I had a friend nicknamed “Soup Can”. Never had first-hand knowledge, but he was quite popular :)

@Bri_L Now THAT would be…uh….ooohhh yeah. ’-)

@Bri_L 7.125 in. Not that i measured that line or anything :P

@Divalicious That reminds me of a guy I went to high school with. ...Bigger than a cucumber, not even lying lol

@uberbatman That line’s 5.25” on my screen….

@Facade im a fucking moron…. i forgot about the whole different size screens and resolution whatnot :P

@Divalicious – some times nicknames can be deceiving.

When I was in high school, there were about 7 of us who wanted to go on to 3rd year French class, but we had only one teacher who taught both French and Spanish and she had 3 years of each offered, so the only way they could swing offering a 3rd year of French was to offer independent study where the teacher was also teaching Spanish 2 across the hall and would check up on us once or twice a period. Basically there weren’t any tests and we were supposed to just listen to tapes, and basically those tapes were a bit behind the curriculum we’d had previous…so any homework we had, we pretty much knew it without having to even listen to the tapes. So, mostly we chatted, and I told them dirty jokes, because I knew ALL the dirty jokes, and the rest of the class was all girls…they really hadn’t heard many dirty jokes collectively, so they loved it.

One time I told them that 2 aliens came down to Earth and saw an old time gas pump. One alien said to the other, “go tell him to take you to his leader”. The other alien said, “no way, that’s YOUR job.” And the first alien said, “I ain’t fucking with anyone who can wrap his dick around his waist twice and stick it in his ear”.

For the rest of my high school days, I was known as “gaspump”. Which proves that sometimes nicknames can also be eerily accurate!

As far as the rest of you questions about tinkers:

I don’t care if it’s a grower or a shower
I do care if it’s circumcised, prefer them that way for cleanliness and asthetics
Smaller ones can give great pleasure but I’ve found I didn’t enjoy to look at or play with them as much

Ok, I will answer honestly.

I would say that I prefer a length between 6 and 7.5 inches. I would consider 7 (when erect, of course) to be ideal.

Anything under 6 I would view as at least somewhat unattractive. Anything more than 7.5 would be uncomfortable in certain positions.

Circumference is more difficult to estimate on sight, but girth is important. I don’t want a “pencil dick” and I don’t want a penis that looks “fat” either. A skinny penis would probably be more unattractive than a short one.

Oh, and I don’t care what it looks like flaccid.

So there it is! And I’d say that most women who care (at least somewhat) about penis size would agree with me.

Please say little. Please say little.
<<Fingers crossed, eyes shut tight>>

I don’t really have a ‘just right’ length. That said, I have been with a man who was smaller than my thumb, fully erect – I couldn’t really feel that at all, but he had other skills. I have also been with a man who was longer than my head is tall and as big around as my fist. Every time we had sex, it hurt and I bled like a virgin. Luckily, he also had other skills! Anywhere in the average range is good, and I like a girthy organ (though not as big as my fist, please).

I agree mostly with @MacBean except the first finger to thumb part. Although, since I’ve had a kid…that part is more important to me.
I’ve been with men with a very small penis, and it literally felt like a finger…which isn’t what I’m looking for when I want sex.
There is a point where it can be too big. I don’t recall any issues like that before I had my son, but I know that after I had my son, sex with my husband was more difficult at first…it felt like his penis had grown two inches in length and girth, probably from me having my muscles stretched then retightened even more than before. sorry for the tmi!
I’d say nothing over 7.5in, but I prefer smaller than that…but not too small. I don’t even know how big my husband is, but he’s just about right. Oh, and the curve makes a huge difference…definitely in a good way.

So I reallyyy want to answer this! But I’m pretty gay. However, I feel I’m at least slightly qualified because I have had sex with a dude! …That one time. He was maybe 7” long, which was at least 1” too long. I kept getting hit in the cervix, which is kinda owie. As for width, he was also a little wide for my liking. Maybe 4” circumference? I don’t know. It’s not that I didn’t enjoy it though, I definitely did, and I figure I would have gotten used to it if I’d, you know. Been more determined. :)

Anyhow, maybe it’s because I’m so used to doin’ ladies, but I prefer something about 4–5” long, with a girth of about 2.5 or 3”. As in, if I were going to buy myself something, that’s what I’d look for. :) I’m petite, so that also probably has something to do with it.

Make you feel better, @AstroChuck? ;)

Oops, didn’t answer all your questions..
Flaccid penises really gross me out. But, that’s just a personal opinion of mine, usually not shared by other women. I don’t mean they bother me on tv or anything, but I don’t find them attractive unless they are erect. But, this never deterred me to find out what it looked like erect. It’s like a surprise!
Circumsized vs. Uncircumsized: I don’t care really, I’ve only ever seen like one or two uncircumsized, definitely look different but still function the same so it’s not like it has any effect on the sex. I guess I prefer circumsized because it’s what I know. Again, just my personal opinion.

I have experienced an 8½ incher for the last ten years. It is perfect for me because it is all I’ve known for a while. I used to think I liked stubby ones, but now I think I like length along with girth. I guess I am cliche and stereotypical on this one. I like it big.

However, I would rather have a five inch that could go as long as I needed it to go than a nine inch that only came out to play for a minute or so.

If I were a woman I’d look at the mind of my lover because with it theres much more stimuli and than the act formed from it than the tool below.

You hear about women getting breast reduction surgery all the time.
But, here are words no man will ever say: “Hey Doc, can you knock 2–3 inches off this thing. It’s too big.”

And just to be clear, we’re all talking metric system centimeters, right?

@worriedguy Your analogy makes no sense

@worriedguy I think people are referring to inches not centimeters.

I’m talking in inches.

The one time I had sex with a person whose penis was small that I didn’t feel it at all, I thought ‘that’d be a problem’...luckily, my partner is pretty big, imo, anyway…
I think 7 to 8 inches in length erect
and pretty thick
with veins everywhere

When I dated/slept with guys, no larger than 8 inches. Preferably around 7½, though. Anything smaller than 7 didn’t quite cut it (unless I was on top).

I’ve done small guys, and guys who are quite well endowed. My preferred size is 8.5 (length) x 7 (girth) inches. It surprised me when I found that out, because I am a very small person.

@augustlan What brand of condoms did your Donkey Kong man use? I have a friend who is so large that he finds Trojan Magnums uncomfortable.

Anything smaller than 8 in is too small for me, at this point in my life. I don’t know how big too big would be, but I think that anything bigger than the size I mentioned above might start to bee uncomfortable. Shape, hmm…I guess I find it a bit odd if they curve overmuch, or are too long and thin, or if they lean sharply to one side when erect. I like uncircumcised penises – they seem much more dignified.

The friend I mentioned above is a “shower,” and it really limits his pants selection. As far as this goes, I don’t have any particular preference myself to the size of a man’s penis when flaccid, but I think that my friend would prefer that his was smaller when limp just for that reason.

I feel better in Canada as we measure in metrics..

My husband is perfect for me. Of course it took about 15 years to get adjusted not bragging but any bigger and I would not be able to walk! So I guess about 8 inches?

Am I the only guy who doesn’t care about my…size? There’s nothing I can do about it, so who gives a shit?

@wildpotato Ah, this was back in the glory days of my youth… before AIDS was a big threat. No condoms involved back then, so I can’t help you out.

condoms suck anyways

But are so important today!

Wow, I’m very impressed that everyone has opened up so…great job everyone, it’s exactly the kind of data I was looking for. what I’m going to do with it, well….you’ll find out when the time comes… BWOOOHHAHAHAAHHAAHHA

Who is really going to break out the ruler and measuring tape and select a sexual partner? If you really think the penis is the only part of sex than you’re doing it wrong. With the right kind of foreplay you could climax a woman with a toothpick.

I’m kind of surprised by all of the “who’s gonna measure it” sentiment. Trust me, every guy has measured his own. If you’ve fucked a guy and don’t know how big his dick is, it means you didn’t ask.

@NaturalMineralWater The size of a penis is an important part of sex. It’s great to be able to be filled up, and even stretched a bit :)

@dalepetrie Maybe my husband has measured it, but I really don’t remember the exact length and neither does he…and I doubt he’s got anything to lie to me about since we’re married and all…and I can see his peen whenever lol. I’m sure every guy has measured it though, at some point. Even just for curiousity sake.

@dalepetrie I’m with casheroo; I had to ask my guy to remind me of the measurements (had been done before now, though).

the size of my penis isn’t important, what is important is that I can lick my eyebrows.

@evelyns_pet_zebra fascinating, lol
but yes that is useful

@Facade My point was that it’s not only the size.. cmon.. pay attention… lol

@DominicX You are the most awesomist!
forgive my grammar and spelling
drunk now, I think

Whatever happened to “It’s not the size but the perfomance that matters”? Doesn’t really matter to me as long as I like the guy. But honestly speaking though, I have more issues with uncircumsized ones. They just look and feel different to me.

@dalepetrie Oh, and I forgot to include this earlier – there is a continuation to “It’s not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean”:

“Sure, but it takes a long time to cross the Atlantic in a canoe.”

@wildpotato but then sex is about the journey not the destination. =)

@casheroo: I remember your husband’s “curve.” Definitely an asset!

I went out with one dude and his penis touched his belly button when hard.. that was big but fun, my fella is big enough for me to get excited… and if I need more we use toys!!

Penis size mechanically matters. That said i think its immmature and petty when that’s all that’s important to a person.

Up here darling, a little eye contact goes a long way for me.

Its like a T shirt i saw once, it read ‘I hate Size Queens and Small Dicks’.

I don’t know how I feel about someone talking about my husbands penis. lol

I always thought that an uncircumcised penis looked like a wet cigar.

@jmah: I’ve always thought they looked like earthworms.

LOLs @girlofscience, GA

@jmah I nicknamed the one I saw “the walrus”

@casheroo lol..They’re not pretty.

Wrong Jmah, they are pretty, mine included.

Certainly it’s about “more” than just size, I never said it wasn’t…I agree wholeheartedly that its more about how you use what you’ve got. I just think that, though true, many people do (as evidenced here) have a preference, but if asked, they would point to the “it’s all in how you use it” answer as a convenient way to avoid being boxed in. Like I said before, it’s kind of like ice cream…if you’re over at someone’s house and they ask you what kind of ice cream you like, and really, you’ll be happy to just get some ice cream, you don’t care what flavor it is, you might still be thinking, “I hope they have butter brickle.” You’re not going to say “butter brickle” because what if they don’t have it…they might not give you any ice cream at all then. And I suppose if a guy asks a woman what she likes, and she says 7 inches and he’s only got 6, well, she’d damn sure take the 6, but he might feel less like giving it.

Of course, my favorite story along these lines…my college roommate was telling me that a good friend of his in high school…someone I met but didn’t know that well…was approached by the girl in their class who was known to be fairly “easy” for lack of a better term. She approached this guy and said, “if you can give me 6 inches, I’m yours”. He basically was not interested in going where everyone else had gone before, so he said, “honey, I don’t fold in half for ANYBODY”. Which is the opposite of me. One time a girl asked me to give her 9 inches and make it hurt. So I fucked her 3 times and slapped her.

@dalepetrie What is this Butter Brickle ice cream I hear so much about? I’ve never actually seen it, let alone tasted it…any good? Where do I get some?

I just realized how uncomfortable I was every time I read “Cut to the chase” and “penis” in the same sentence.

@wildpotato Only the best ice cream to have ever existed! Sadly, it’s not available through main stream ice cream companies anymore. It breaks my brickle lovin’ heart.

@Bri_L- When I first saw this question my initial thought was to comment on that. “Cut” and “penis” never should be allowed together in one sentence!
Oh shit. We just did that.

@wildpotato – butter brickle is basically toffee flavored ice cream (so basically hard caramelized butter & sugar…mmmm). It’s basically the key ingredient in the Heath Bar. I believe you can still get Heath Bits O’ Brickle ice cream in most major markets. There are still a couple of ice cream makers who make it, though I’m not sure who. Basically a brief bit of research reveals that there are recipes if you care to make it home made, or if you have Friendly’s restaurants in your area, I guess they sell something called butter crunch which is supposedly the same.

@Bri_L & @AstroChuck: Personally, I have more of an issue when ’‘bite’’ and ’‘penis’’ are used too closely together.

@MacBean and @AstroChuck my “turtle” is so far back up its shell I think I just sprayed right guard on its head.

Facade – You are a goddess!

@Bri_L – Yeah, I love turtle ice cream…oops, mixed the metaphors between conversations…

@casheroo Yes, the curve makes a difference!

My first was a little over 7 inches, good girth (don’t remember exactly, although we measured lol). He wasn’t only good in size for me, but he also performed well, which is essential.

Right after that I was with someone who was about 8 inches, but wider. This extra girth felt so good, but sometimes his little extra length would hurt, especially since I have a tilted uterus…. so sometimes he’d hit my uterus pretty hard and it’d be real painful.

The guy I’m with now is a little smaller, about 5 or 6 I’d estimate, but he has a curve which I love. At first I was thrown off by it – I’d only heard of the curve before, but never experienced it. Buuut I’m so glad I stuck with it because it’s really great. It curves up and really makes a difference in what you can feel.

Also, it doesn’t matter if he’s a shower or a grower. Personally, I like when they’re a grower, because I like to see how I can make it grow :)

And as for circumcision, I prefer a circumcised penis myself.

Sorry if this response was too graphic lol.

I also think it’s really sexy that my man always has condoms on hand. He turns around and bam, there it is. I like a man who is prepared – like a boyscout.

@shipwrecks I have a tilted uterus as well! It makes doing it in certain positions a little more painful (like doggie style) I wish it would untilt lol

@casheroo Yes! Doggie style is painful, no matter how many times I try it! Aw we’re connected by our tilted uteri and our curved men… weird.

curves are fun but a pain when it came to using protection as many times it split :(

I had a tilted uterus, too. Take heart ladies… after my hysterectomy, it’s not a problem anymore!

@sakura We have never encountered that! Maybe the condoms were too small?
@augustlan Ah, I’m sure I’ll get there one day, my mother just had hers at 47.

I prefer better foreplay honestly, the size truly doesn’t matter to me, it is all about the energy my fiance puts in to pleasure me :)

@casheroo maybe! It wasn’t that big though!!

So the women are actually lying when they say that size doesn’t matter. And judging from the amount of women here who want 7–9 inches, most women must be terribly disappointed if the average length is between 4 and seven inches. Methinks that it isn’t just men who lie about size!

Either that, or there is a significant discrepancy in measurement techniques. I mean, where are you measuring from? The balls, or the top of the penis?

@daloon

7–9 inches?!

Sweet Jesus…

@DominicX You’re not telling me you know the size of Jesus’ dick, are you????

@daloon

Have you heard the song “My Dick” by Mickey Avalon? The chorus is:

It’s time that we let the world know
Dude, you gotta let your girl go
D.S. is the best in the business
P.S. we got dicks like Jesus

It’s a rap. The lyrics are hilarious. :P

And I always knew the average was about 6 inches. I think I saw a histogram of some sorts that showed the average being 6.

A close female friend of mine says that having been ‘around the block’ a few times, she won’t entertain a man who’s wang doesn’t cover his belly button, and uses this as the benchmark for her satisfaction when she gets someone new into her bed.

@HappyFox – perhaps it is her “travel habits” that have provided her with the need to demand such dimensions in her partners?

@Bri_L – Possibly, but unlikely. I think it’s more of a case of having driven a Mustang, it’s hard to go back to a pushbike. :)

@HappyFox If she judges whether she’ll be satisfied or not by the size of the dick of her partner, then she deserves the satisfaction she gets. Maybe she should hang out in the porn industry. Plenty of large-cocked men there. And they know how to pump, too.

[shakes his head dolefully wondering what the hell the world is coming too]

@daloon – Well, I’m not sure the porn industry would suit her lifestyle, but it’s more of a case of personal preference so I can’t chastise her for it; it’s the equivalent of me liking women with big boobs over women with small boobs.

@HappyFox – You like big boobs over small boobs. But you didn’t denounce small boobs in comparison.

Your description of a “mustang” and a “push bike” most certainly implies poor quality is connected to size no matter what her preference is. As does her attitude and practice it would seem.

And welcome to fluther! Sorry, I forgot in my first post!

@HappyFox Well, I like women with big boobs and hourglass figures, but that never stopped me from having relationships with women who didn’t have all these features. Or marrying one, for that matter.

My boyfriend is big when flacid and much bigger when erect. Having been married 23 years prior and not experiencing this size, I’ll have to say I prefer my boyfriend. Much more pleasurable, especially the width!

When we say the “motion of the ocean” thing, it isn’t actually an attempt at evasion.

Long and thick is great, but it usually comes with the perception that their big cock = good sex.
Men who are more average seem to really try to figure out what you like the best, and can use their average size penis in an above average manner.

A gorgeous cock is a wonderful thing indeed, but I might as well have a toy down there if he doesn’t know how to use it.

If it’s a wonderful experience, it’s a wonderful penis.

8 inches long and 2 inches thick!

Damn what a depressing series of answers. It is curious tho how many women say they prefer 7–9 inches when the average is 5–6ish? Are there that many disappointed women out there?

@FutureMemory- Eh. Women are never happy.

I stand by my answer!!!

@AstroChuck though I don’t identify with the term woman, you’d identify me as one for sure and I AM happy so there goes that argument of yours

Impossible. You lie. ;)

@AstroChuck but indeed it’s true…you should come over and see :)

@delirium everybody should be good at what they do. I don’t know how people can have sex without at least trying to make the other person happy.

Um, what’s your exact size @daloon? That.

44 medium, I think. Haven’t bought a suit in ages, though.

@daloon [Not mod] says; You’re = you are (please go and correct your title, thanks)

@Zen You didn’t tell me there was a party. Can I have some of what you’ve been smoking tonight?

@To all.
So I’ve been reading about many fluther women liking ‘em big, and while this is different from what I hear on the radio, it doesn’t make me feel all too inadequate.
:-D

However, when I look at porn videos and pics, I barely see the erect penises go in, even from actors who seem average size. For sure, many thrust fast, hard, and vigourously, and some do in rear-entry (doggie-style); but rarely do I see it going all the way in and fully erect, and I’m still not sure if those are not pain cries. As for oral, even more the case—an inch or so, and that’s it.

18 for fantasy, any size for the guy I love

I guess the fantasy will always remain a little bigger than I’ve experienced in the reality, if someday I get a 18cm, maybe it will raise to 20 or 21, but any size for the guy I love.