How do you keep matters away from your mind?
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July 24th, 2009
I have this very bad habit of occupying my mind with unnesssary thinking usually due to problems I encountered in my daily life. I always feel guilty of my action and whenever i realise it, it is too late. I have a habit of rewinding almost every conversation i made to see how i reacted and most of the time i feel guilty of what i said and what i have done. It occured again a few minutes ago and I literally have something to say to this person whom I had coinversation with this afternoon but I will not be able to say it to him any sooner than next week. How can i remove this bit away from my mind, store it, and keep the information and my euthusiasm to speak to him until the time comes?
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It’s almost impossible to not think about a certain thing. It is quite easy to think about something else. So the answer is to find something else to think about.
I watch my favorite tv shows on DVR or call a friend and ask them about their day.
journal it so you’ll remember the important details, how you felt and what you want to say next time you talk with the person. Now that you have it out of your brain and preserved on paper, move on to something else. For me, reading a good fiction book will almost always help me let go of something that is hamster wheeling inside my head.
I watch Reba on Youtube (they don’t show it on TV over here in the UK). For some reason it calms my mind. It doesn’t help when my thoughts are really scaring me (damn this overactive imagination) but it does help when I’m just a little anxious or unsure (AKA my normal frame of mind!!!)
Meditation helps. Start with even as few as five minutes of sitting quietly in a place where you know you won’t be bothered and focusing on breathing. You can learn more here.
Even if only for a few seconds you can recognize that your thoughts are merely thoughts and not imperatives that you must obey like commands, that will help.
I would suggest writing what you want to say on a piece of paper, or a journal. That is a trick my girlfriend does, it seems to be really effective for her. I usually talk to myself to just talk it out I suppose.
i do that all the time atsedaes… talking to myself that is. Sometimes too loud that ppl question my sanity. =)
Let them. Maybe you will start rubbing off on them. ;-)
Too much analysis leads to paralysis.
i think we have same problem, my friends suggest me to keep busy or do what you like.
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