How much time do you spend with your mom?

Too much. She lives with us and has loose ideas of privacy and very little understanding of what it’s like to be a supportive parent.

I spend time with my mom; we have plenty in common. We’ve gone to open houses together and the symphony together, those are some of the things that I participate in that are exclusively just my mom and I; of course I spend more time with her when I’m with my siblings. However, I don’t mind spending time with my mom and I don’t think I will when I get older either, I mean, I’m already 17, isn’t this the age when I’m supposed to hate my mom? Doesn’t seem to be happening much with me. I just don’t want my mom or dad prying into my life when I’m an adult or anything and bothering me. I do want to be on my own, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to completely forget about my parents.

as little time as i can get away with being as we live together. Definitely exacerbates my depression as we don’t get along at all.

I live with my parents but can still sometimes go whole days without seeing them. I do make an effort to spend at least an hour a day in the presence of one or the other of them, so that news can be exchanged. But I prefer if it’s my dad. He and I get along. My mother and I do not.

Depends on how they feel after work. I live with my parents, and I stay at home all day with my son. If they’re in a good mood they hang out with me, I’m usually really wanting some company and/or a little break from my son…he likes to talk and play with them when they get home.
We also have sit down dinners together minimum 4 days a week, probably more like 5 or 6 days. Wednesdays I’m home at night with just my dad and son, so we hang out and watch tv, and eat dinner together.
I spend a great deal with them both, I even did before we moved in with them. I’d come visit at least three times a week and before I moved in, my mother and I would talk on the phone every day…

I bought a house with mine and we live together in it and we also work for the same company but we don’t spend much recreation time together and give each other a good amount of privacy, physically and verbally. Having left home very young and only seen her a few times a year for a very long time, this is new ground for the both us, mostly we’re enjoying to get to know one another.

I dream about her still being alive on occasion and spend that time reliving the sage advice she gave me in her living years, she had great grit.

Not much, but I don’t want to be a momma’s boy.

I’m 29, and I’ve always spent a lot of time with my mom – she drives me crazy sometimes, but we have a lot in common, and we have a lot of fun together. My parents live downstairs from me and my husband at the moment (we just bought a duplex, and they’re renting the other half from us), and I make sure to stop in to say hi and have a cup of tea with my mom every day, if we don’t already have other plans together.

It’s always been strange to me that people just assume you wouldn’t want to spend time with your mom – but then, when I was growing up, my friends always wanted to spend time with my mom, just not with theirs. I guess I just got a good one!

My mother is over 94 and can no longer remember to take a shower. I was there yesterday throwing away ancient English muffins that were clogging up the freezer and tossing magazines from 2005.

I was there (30 minutes away) today to show her how to use a washcloth on the important spots each morning. I will be there on Monday when I bring some groceries. Is it fun? No.

Is it important? I think so.

Probably not enough. I only live about 10 miles away from my mother and I only call and see her maybe once every 2 months. We have always had a very good relationship too. What I think it might come down to for me and I’m a little ashamed to admit it is, I think laziness plays a part in me not picking up a phone or making a simple drive over to mom’s place more often.

Compared to my siblings and father (and all other relatives)? A whole lot.
Compared to friends? Very little.

Not nearly enough. We have a good relationship, especially compared to when I was a teen (which was very recent, as I’m 22.) I live about a 6 hour drive away. I visit about 4 times a year, and when I am home I spend a lot of time with her. We like to just grocery shop together, as silly as that sounds. We talk on the phone a lot more than we used to too, about once a day now, whereas when I first left home I think I called her once every few months, usually to tell her when I’d be arriving for Thanksgiving or Christmas.

I spent as much time with my mom as possible! And now that she’s gone I wish I could’ve spent more!

@sdeutsch: My mom is the same way. Friends of mine who have met her once will remember her years later and tell me how cool she is.

@all: These answers tell me how much time people tend to spend with their mothers, but what about why you do or don’t spend a lot of time together? I know I spend a lot of time with my mom because we get along well and there are certain things I can’t talk to other people about. I think it’s also habit. Since she’s my only immediate family member, I spent a lot of time with her when I was still living at home.

I don’t spend time with her because she likes gardening and cooking and books. I like loud music, sci-fi TV shows and first-person shooter computer games.

@Sarcasm: So you would say it’s a difference in interests. That seems like a good enough reason to not spend time with her. I just see a lot of people who don’t spend time with their mothers because they don’t want to spend time with their parents, no legitimate reason.

Not enough, I wish we lived closer.

Too much in my opinion (I live with my parents). No time at all in their opinion. And they make sure to guilt me about it every chance they get. Oh well, one day I’ll move and all will be right with the world.

About once every two months, even though she only lives about a mile away. What can I say, I love her, but I really don’t like her and find the time I spend with her to be stressful. She is always so fucking negative.

i still live with my mother so i would say i see her for at least an hour a day, usually not a full hour but split up between morning and night. or if she’s not working and i’m home then maybe longer. we get along very well. she laughs alot which is nice. lol

I’m 37. I never spend any time with my mother, and if I can help it, it’s as little as possible. She’s usually too busy anyway, but calls me a lot (usually the calls last longer than they need to). We meet in person a couple of times a month, which for me is perhaps a couple of times too many.

Generally speaking, I guess when you grow older you need to be more independent and feel that you can stand on your own two feet. Which means you leave the family home (as you did) and get a job, and a girlfriend, and eventually get married and start your own family. It’s not that usually people avoid their mothers like I do. It’s just that they change their lifestyle and habits, and the mother still remains, but as a member of a different family, one that you will remember when you need advice, and look after when she’s old.

I don’t get to spend as much time as I want to because my parents and I live in different countries. But there are occasions when we all get together for a vacation/reunion and then that’s when I try to spend every waking hour with them. Often times, I take them out of town or to private resorts so we get more quality time. I try to fill out the missed times. But personally, I don’t think I could live with my mom for more than 2 months because we clash. Which makes me sad… =[

@Jack79 I think you’re right about life changing as you get older and your mother’s place in it changing – I think it just depends how her place in it changes. For a lot of people, it’s just as you described – she just becomes a member of a more distant family, so it’s natural that you wouldn’t spend as much time with her.

For me, as I got older my mom became less mom and more close friend, so she’s still a big part of my life, just in a different capacity. I still go to her for mom advice sometimes, but for the most part we interact the way friends do – hanging out and doing things we enjoy together. I think it’s harder for some people to make that transition than others (and some just don’t want to – I had a good relationship with my mom to start out with, so it was pretty easy for us…)

I love my mom so much. I love spending time with her. We usually talk online or via Facebook once a day and spend time together once a week.

My partner though, he hates his mom and would never ever spend one second with her. But that’s clearly due to his traumatic upbringing.

Then again, maybe my love for my mother is influenced by my positive upbringing.

My daughters went through an early 20’s stage when they didn’t want to spend time with me. Now they like to hang out with me all the time. I think it must be because no one in the world adores their children like I do. :-)
My single son is avoiding me like the plague lately.

I see my mom, every week – sometimes multiple times in one week. We talk, daily. I like being around my mother.

I don’t spend much time with my mum, we live over an hours drive from each other now. We speak on the phone every other day and we arrange days together but we often go a few weeks without seeing each other.

I still live with my parents, so, with my mom currently not going to work, we spent a lot of time together – specially now, with the summer.

It’s an eye opener! I thought I was the only one! I have 2 sons, one is very close to me and talks to me and we spend time together (he’s 22). My yougest who used to be closer to me than my oldest, used to be all lovey, huggy until he was about 15 years old (he is now 20), hardly talks to me, spends very little time with his family, eats and leaves the table right away (at home or at a restaurant). When we ask him any questions he just mumbles and seems iritated. He goes to University and his free time is spent on online games. He doesn’t have a job. Both my sons still live at home. It hurts very much that I lost that closeness with my son… I keep remembering the times when he used to tell me “I love you so much, keep on going, never stop.”

My How things change! When I first read this question I thought about how much time my kids spent with me.
Since this question was first posted my mom was diagnosed with liver cancer and died. I was so blessed to spend the last month of moms life with her and my sisters. None of us left her side for more than an hour until she died.