Are there limits to your anger?

Usually, a long string of expletives come spewing out my mouth and then I’m done.

It usually lasts long enough for me to throw away clutter and clean out cupboards.

My anger rarely lasts a long time. There is a limit; I will not break objects, I just knock them over or disarrange them; I will not reveal secrets that I promised not to reveal; I will not physically injure myself. But often, when it comes to insults, don’t think I won’t go there, because I will go there.

Yes, the limit is actually hurting people or causing irrepairable damage to things that are important. For example, I’d never hit a person, no matter how angry I am (I might hit them cold-blooded, eg if I were a boxer, but not in anger). But I often break things, usually of lesser value. Or I might hit my fist on the wall or something. I also never show my anger in front of my daughter. No matter what. If I really can’t control it, I go into a different room and start breaking things, but not in front of her.

Usually I forgive whoever has harmed me in a few minutes, or by the next morning the latest. I always think that a new day means a fresh start, and never keep grudges overnight. I may make an exception for people who keep hurting me over and over again though.

I hope there is a limit, but it’s doubtful.

I normally have a long fuse and this coupled with a lot of patience makes it fortunate for me that I don’t get really angry that often. Many times also it dissipates rather quickly if I can distract myself with something (usually running and other exercise) that makes me shut out the source of the anger. As far as a ceiling to its intensity? I don’t know and I don’t ever want it to get to that point where I’d have to find out.

I’m almost always quick to forgive someone and also quick to apologize if I’ve caused a problem or have been the catalyst for someone else’s anger.

you won’t like me when I’m angry…

I have a flash temper. I can go from zero to a dimension of insane pissed off in about 2 seconds. My anger doesn’t usually last terribly long, but I can hold a grudge for years.

Like jmah if spout off a long sentence filled with “shit piss fuck cunt cock sucker mother fucker and tits” im usually good after that. Very rarely will i hold onto my anger any longer than that. There have been few times where ive done the whole fist through the wall thing, but not much worse than that.

It depends a lot on what has made me angry. If something were deliberate and was directed at my children, designed to cause them harm, then my anger could last for years. If it is yet another example of folks being thoughtless, then it is often over very quickly, after a bit of muttering and maybe some banging.

I have never physically done harm to anyone when angry, but I have said some very nasty things. Those who have injured my children either no longer exist for me, or are subject to any appropriate legal proceedings.

The worst for me is the ‘civilized’ anger… you know, when you’re absolutely seething about something or someone, but must function properly. In front of the kids, out in public, that kind of thing. Regular old anger takes a little while to manifest itself, usually. When it does, I go all out – cussing, pounding on things, throwing things (rarely at a person, but there have been times…), storming around, yelling (but no hitting), and it takes me several hours to get over it.

It really takes a lot to make me mad. But If I get really pissed (hard to do) I go with a “fuck off” and walk away.

I hold grudges forever.

It has been a year since I was really mad. And that was when my mom told me she didn’t want the growth in her brain removed. I was screaming and throwing stuff. She said she just wanted to die. So I was crying and throwing stuff around the garage.

But I barely ever get angry. I get irritated. But that is different.

@johnpowell How is your mom these days?

I rant a lot when I am irritated. People mistake it for anger. I suppose because I get loud. I get easily annoyed, irritated, and the like, but to get me really angry, you have to push the right button. No, I won’t tell which button it is. =)

When I am angry, I swear very loudly for a bit, then I get really quiet, and just stare at you like you are a lamb chop and I am a hungry lion. Usually the swearing ends with something pretty virulent like fuck you, you motherfucking fuck! and then I clam up and stare the person down, and when they drop their eyes, I walk away. It’s best for everyone that I walk away, because I had an uncontrollable temper when I was younger. Now I have it in check.

Anger has been a huge issue in my life because I’m an adrenaline junkie and my brain knows if it can trick me into a false reaction, it’s going to dump dope. Saying that, I’ve really had to work with myself to re program in ways to feel pleasure without using negativity. If I get angry then I have to really think quick and ask myself what’s going on, what’s reasonable and whether or not I’m on the verge of taking advantage of someone in order to get off.

As soon as I anger I feel defeated. I fight it with mental grit, look logically at the situation, taking time and reflection to think of the unproductive emotion of anger. Then I usually solve my problem through mechanisms, none of which involve any anger.

Yeah, the other night, I wanted to grab my boyfriend’s hair and bang his head into the wall, but I restrained myself. Go me!

Piss me off at your peril!

I usually try to avoid it as much as possible. It is very detrimental to my health.

I rarely get angry anymore; and when I do, it doesn’t last long.

..yes generally when I get to the point at which I begin to start hating myself for getting so angry

my brother gets angry and blacks out…...not pass out but he cant remember what he does. He has gotten that angry with me before. Its pretty scary to see because you dont know if they will ever stop.
But i agree with dannyc…but it definatly takes effort. Its almost like you have to train yourself to start thinking that way.