Is falling in love scary?

It’s not just you.

There are so many emotions that go into it, it can be painful and magical all at the same time.

It involves putting your heart out where it can be hurt so yes- it is scary. But to find the right one- the one who will not crush your heart- is worth all the pain of the wrong ones.

I myself was terrified the last two times. I didn’t let it stop me… I married both of them. ;-)

It wasn’t to me, but it’s completely normal to be afraid to give someone else your heart.

Daw, you guys and your love. Makes me feel warm in the place where a heart would be.

* goes back to grumbling and reflecting on his crap love life *

No, falling in love is a great thing, although many people think it’s scary because you have a risk of getting your heart broken. However, it’s a risk willing to take and much worth it.

It is even scarier when you give your all to someone and then they leave you.
Letting go again to love another is very hard.

We tend not to value things that come too easy. But, there is nothing like true love. Some are lucky and don’t have to pay dues. But it usually requires you to stick your neck out some, and maybe even suffer a failure or two. But when you find it, you’ll look back and know it was all worth it.

I want to know how @augustlan gets away with having two husbands? Are you in Utah, by chance, my dear?

And I think falling out of a tall tree is more scary than falling in love. Love is a positive thing for me.

One at a time, zebra man. One at a time. :P

Falling in love isn’t scary at all. The chemicals in your brain are all warm, fuzzy and exciting, and the sex is awesome. The scary part is the idea of losing that which you love; the wonderful feeling this other person produces might some day leave you.

Perhaps a song describes the feeling of falling in love the best.

When I fall in love….
It will be completely…
Or I’ll never fall in love…

For me, the scary part about falling in love isn’t the fear of losing that person… it’s the fear of losing myself. In both cases, I’d come out of long-term serious relationships and had emphatically decided I wanted to be alone for a good long while and just have fun. No serious relationships allowed! In both cases, that failed miserably. Dammit. Of course, I’m quite happy that it turned out that way, but when I started to fall my initial impulse was to run for the hills.

you’re scary

@loser Are you? Falling in love?

@augustlan call me, we will run away together. =)

Scary? Not necessarily. Intense? Yes. Work? Yes. It is also the most exciting thing I ever experienced in my entire life. For me the hardest part was letting myself go completely so that I could feel safe with my love. Now I feel completely safe.

@chyna Oooh, I hope so!

I’m not sure… maybe…

Squee!

Is it the girl with the sometimes girlfriend?

@tinyfaery Yeah, apparently I really misunderstood her comment. She’s just a good friend. Duh for me!

Okay. I got worried for a second. Then yay!

Falling in love isn’t scary. It is exhilarating.

Getting married – now that’s scary. Tying yourself legally to someone else, giving them access to your whole life, including your financial records, becoming responsible for their debts, and having children with them? I would have backed out of the wedding, except everybody had already flown in to see it happen.

@loser Yes!!

It is for people who’ve had to endure losing love due to circumstance outside of love and good intentions. Going through familiar wonderful motions feels delicate, as though it could crumble or be snatched away by outside forces at any time.

Falling in love wasn’t the completely scary part, it was the allowing someone in my life and my daughter’s life. For me, it’s the trust part that scared me. Once I realized that he was there and had the best intentions, it was just what Darwin said…exhilarating!

I hope you do find love losr..I think you’re a really cool guy x

Anything that makes you feel vulnerable seems scary but the risk is all worth it. We learn and we grow from these experiences. It makes or breaks us. At the end of the day, wouldn’t it be better to have known how scary it was to leave your heart out in the open for someone you felt strongly for than not finding out how it felt to fall in love and be loved? Come to think of it, living a life of regret is scarier than getting your heart broken a few times (<——if that’s what makes falling in love seem scary)

The scariest part perhaps is the knowledge that you’ll have to expose yourself totally in order to really love and be loved. And we feel vulnerable. And yet the most ironic thing is that it’s this opening of ourselves which will enable us to feel love the most.

So what’re you waiting for? Go out there, find someone, and be LOVED!

Yes, yes it is. Love has done more damge to my life than, well, lot’s. My problem was I thought I couldn’t because of what I’d been through, well, I could, and I had no guard, and I fell completly, and I ended up, a bum with a blackberry, huh well, if that was my time to shine I just don’t have it in me right now. First time I fell in love was under the Eiffel Tower, had a pebble, there’s these pebbles under the Tower, in my shoe when I saw her. When I left Paris it was like getting my heart broke twice, should have stayed, but I’m just not built that way. I still think about her everyday, and the others. I used to say in life you can either be a smear, a splat, or a stain, now I think that truley applies to love. Fuck it. Don’t that’s my advice, it’s cool to sound bitter, ain’t it my fellows, love ya
wow that was wierd even for me

@bumwithablackberry sorry..fwiw..I think she’s mental x